What age do you guys think is too late to have kids for a guy? I’m asking because I’m in my early 20’s and my husband is in his early 30’s. We have an 11 year age gap but get along perfectly otherwise. Most of the time I don’t even realize that we’re not the same age. I’m still in school and plan on going to law school after completing my undergraduate degree. Originally I had planned on waiting to have kids until I was 28/29 because this would give me time to finish school and establish my career but now I feel like I have to have them sooner. I know we will definitely wait at least a few years to have kids but it’s just really stressing me out for some reason. I feel like I can’t enjoy my time with my husband because in the back of my mind I’m constantly worrying about this. I’m really young and I don’t feel ready to have kids at all. He’s in a totally different stage of his life and has completed his education and worked his way up in his career already. He hasn’t been pressuring me but he wants to have kids as soon as I’m done with law school and I’m worried about how this will impact my career 
I really don’t don’t know what to do. Does anyone have advice?
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Hi there :) I also went to law school and am currently practising as a lawyer at a top tier law firm and have been for 3 years now, Allhamdullilah. Having said that though, I am 25 and only had my nikkah done recently with the wedding and ruksathi in about 3 months. In answer to your question regarding kids, hubby and I have discussed this at length and have agreed that we want 2 kids Inshallah before I am 30 (he is 28) and I definitely want to resume my career as soon as I can or work from home if possible. I think you and your hubby need to prioritise what it is you want and when- if you plan to have kids as soon as you finish law school it will be difficult to get into the work force for at least a couple of years until they are older and you won't have any experience either (unless you currently work). However, if kids are the priority then there is absolutely nothing wrong with having kids first and THEN starting your career (or if you can manage both but lawyers have a full on schedule!). For me it was just timing and when hubby and I met which is why I was lucky enough to get the experience beforehand. My best friend on the other hand, who also went to law school with me, got married right after graduation and now has a baby and therefore hasn't worked a day in her life and I am not sure she will but everyone is different.
There is no need to stress though, just figure out which direction you want to take and plan accordingly :)
It's not about how old he can be and still have kids. He has at least thirty more years if not more to remain "productive". The question you should be asking yourself is that how old you want at least your oldest kid to be once your hubby is 65. You don't want your hubby to hit the retiring age and all the kids are still in high school or lower. Figure out what age you want your kids to be then and then work backwards.
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The question you should be asking yourself is that how old you want at least your oldest kid to be once your hubby is 65. You don't want your hubby to hit the retiring age and all the kids are still in high school or lower.
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This!
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What age do you guys think is too late to have kids for a guy?
That all depends on the particular guy lol (yea I know this isn't very helpful!). My FIL was 40 when my hubby's brother was born….early 40's when my hubby was born. FIL has always been very active & from what my hubby tells me….his (FIL's) age was never an issue when it came to interacting with his sons. Right now I know quite a few men who are in their early to mid 40's and have young (age less than 5) children. Most of these men are high paying/demanding careers and chose to delay having kids. But again, these men are in good physical shape, have plenty of disposable income and are at a point in their career/life where $$ isn't a concern. I see these families enjoying life without all the stresses that I see younger couples going through (**Disclaimer: This is only based on my personal experience). Heck my husband will probably be 40 or older by the time we have one (and my hubby is perfectly fine with that). So you need to figure out whether or not this will work for YOUR hubby b/c not every man is ok with this (ie. having kids at 40).
Originally I had planned on waiting to have kids until I was 28/29 because this would give me time to finish school and establish my career but now I feel like I have to have them sooner. He hasn't been pressuring me but he wants to have kids as soon as I'm done with law school and I'm worried about how this will impact my career.
With law school/career, what type of law you go into will makes a big difference. Working for a firm vs. being in-house counsel…..large "big law" firms vs. a small firm…..all these details make a difference in your lifestyle. Were you planning on working after having kids? I ask because if the answer is yes….then even if you have a child after law school, you can get a nanny/day care for the daytime while you work (ie. especially since your husband is already established in his career, this shouldn't put a financial burden).