So have been back 2 months now and my kids have started nursery for about 3 weeks now.
They still cling onto me and won’t let me leave. Few times have cried as well. They are fine once I’ve left. But it’s me leaving that’s tricky I have to sneak out when they r distracted
So it’s not reallymaking them better they just know I’m going to leave so cling onto me.
What the he’ll can I do. I’m tired of it. My eldest was the same in Pakistan she went school for 3 months there but cried daily
And now she makes the younger one upset too. Both are clingy and just not settling.
What can I do or say. They r fine up until we get into the classroom.
Do nothing. Be firm, cheerful and consistent. When you drop them off, give them a quick peck on the cheek, pat on the head and then leave quickly and don't look back. Let the teachers handle it from there. My eldest was the same way he started preschool. He had major separation anxiety and his first week he would cry so much he would throw up. His teachers were amazing though and they wouldn't let me linger or come back and get him. It took about 3 months for him to fully settle down.
What khatti said.
Walk briskly away so that they know you will not linger.
Don't wait for them to become busy and distracted.
Don't pacify them.
Just say "Mommy will pick you up later. Have a nice day" and leave.
It has taken about 2.5 months to get my 2 year settled. I was about to give up but continued with it as I knew that he would eventually settle and if I gave up then he would be like this when he started school. I used to leave him crying, was not allowed to stay which I think is a good idea, he was fine after I left, so knowing that he was ok after I left made it easier for me and I'm glad I kept at it.
I know it seems like she will never settle but be persistent and she will eventually. She will soon start enjoying the company of the other kids.
My kids been to daycare for a year now and he still cries quietly when I leave. Hes fine when I leave though. Its upsetting for me but I just say a quick bye and dont linger. Ive accepted it the way it is.
Believe me I have seen kids as old as 6 years old in my daughter's school still crying for their mothers. Every child is different and sooner or later they adjust. I agree with Khatti's advice, implement it.
Don't mean to derail this topic but just wondering at what age is nursery suitable? My baby is 18 months and I'm taking her to a playgroup. My husband thinks its time for nursery but it seems too young. What do you guys think?
Also yes I agree with what the other posters have said.
Thornewood9 if you don't need Nursary I would say Keep the baby with yourself till 3 years. I did some reading and apparently children do best with their main carers till at least 3 years of age.
Don't mean to derail this topic but just wondering at what age is nursery suitable? My baby is 18 months and I'm taking her to a playgroup. My husband thinks its time for nursery but it seems too young. What do you guys think?
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I put mine in for 2 mornings a week when he was 2 years and 3 months old, due to the fact that I also had a 1 year old at home and also because he didn't really mix with other kids. N it has eventually worked out well for him and me. I don't think I would have put him in if I didn't have my baby as he was too young.
If there is a need or reason then go for it, otherwise wait until he starts preschool or playgroup, which here is at 2 years 9 months.
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my mum said this too. She said babies that age need their parent more than anything else. Alhumdulillah we aren't in a position where I need to go and work. And with second baby due any day now I won't be going back to work anytime soon anyways. Thanks for the advice guys. Think I'm going to have a chat with husband. I really don't want to put her in nursery. Playgroup is fine, I can watch her and she can socialise at the same time. And I can take new baby along too. Jazakhallah again guys.
It takes time and differ from child to child, some child get adjust in just 2 or 3 days while others takes 2 or 3 weeks. It is natural and become normal with time. Preschool is a good option for kids as there the play as well as learn and they also prepares them for kindergarten.
Consistency is the key. It's should settle down and is fairly common. Think of the positives, they do eventually settle and don't spend the entire nursery session in tears.
It takes time and you're at a new place, everything is new for them, new people, new places.
Anyway, I go early with my little one to the daycare (appr. 15 mins before, took longer in the beginning) so that I have time to let him settle in before I leave. I usually find him some toys, something to color or one of his buddies and as soon as he has settled in, he waves me "byebye" happily on his own. I know myself and I wouldn't be able to focus on my day and work if I left him crying, that's just not me and I know my kid, he handles it much better when he knows it's time for me to leave and I also know he wouldn't stop crying just like that. You need to find a method that works for you and your children as well. Some kids needs more time to settle in and nothing wrong with that. Some are okay once mama is out of sight. Try them out and use whatever you and they're comfortable with.