My daugther just had her third birthday and we got her lots of educational toys and she got some from my family as well, we want to encourage her to learn and now I think is the right time to learn some letters and numbers, she can already count till 20, and say some letters. Mashallah.
Now this non desi lady on her birthday gave her a doll, not just any doll but a “pregnant doll”, with a big tummy, if you open her stomach a small baby is inside and u can take the baby outside and close her stomach and the stomach gets smaller, now I didn’t give this to her as I dont think its the right time and appropiate that such a small child should already learn about the facts of life and also I dont want to scare her. Do u think its ok to let such small kids play with such things, would u let ur kid have the doll ?
this is so inappropriate!!! you should let her know how appalled u were. i mean even a non-desi wudnt bombard their children with sex related stuff at such an early stage! its just ridiculous!
yes, i think its better that the kids think babies come in baskets. kids shudnt b told these small details and shouldnt b exposed to any info related to it at such a delicate age.
Saadia i think it depends on how conservative you are. I think in the US, within the local culture, they kind of tell their kids, mommy has a baby in her tummy etc when they are pregnant. In our culture this info is pretty much avoided and jsut never talked about.
If I were you, i would probably take away the doll until she is older and you want to talk to her about this and then bring it out and show it to her. Although i agree, out of all the toys the guest could have given, she chose a pregnant doll, which is just a bit wierd.
I agree with mose comments about the pregnant doll, but just wonder. When i was pregnant & had a huge belly....i remember this one particular girl...she was about 3-4 years old....she knew i had a baby in the belly....
at the time i was shocked....im like no honey...and she's like " I knowwww u have a baby in your tummy...is it a boy or a girl?" i was like WOW......but then when i thought about it, she has 2 younger sisters....so obviously she seen her mommy's tummy, and maybe her mom told her or overheard her mom talking....
maybe its not so bad they know the tummy has baby.....as to why 7 how, you can save that for when their older.....simple answer like from Allah...etc....could be sufficient.
it's one thing talking to your kids about having babies but it's different to give them a doll that is pregnant....AND the baby can come out of it!! strange i think....never seen such a doll or heard of it.
The thing thats freaky about the doll is the little baby inside that you can take out and put inside, I didnt have the nerve to open the box, just saw the description and the doll from the outside.
It is our house ward, just came to the party and gave it to her, didnt even stay, so I cannot tell her why such a doll, its just rude. We have packed the doll away in the cellar otherwise I would have taken a pic of it to show it here. Afterwards I even went to give her the cake and thanked her :smack:
I really appreciate the feedback as I didnt know what to do with it, we both were amused/astonished at the doll at first and my first instinct she is not getting this anytime soon. Its a gift that u cannot even regift .. LOL not that I normally do that.
Its something like this but with a baby inside the tummy.
no way..... bcoz she will ask you a million questions and you will have to answer her, unless you want to tell her the whole story of how baby comes in the tummy and all otherwise i would say no....my little 3 yr old niece knows about babies in mummies tummies and she always ask's so many questions about it......
p.s. schools are planning to teach sex education to children aged 5, so might wanna keep tht doll:)
i think its a really weird gift!!
keep it away until you're ready to tackle it. no point in upsetting the child and weirding her out with too much information.
one of the reasons why the goverment wants schools to start teaching sex eduaction at the age of 5 is becoz of teenage pregnancies, and the lack of infomation children receive from their parents....
Do you think we have more pregnant teenager girls in Pakistan ? cause we have zero sex education at age 5 for the kids in Pakistan...
its not the lack of education, rather giving the info to them way too early about sex that causes teen pregnancies
you think these girls in paksitan know too much about sex? well i dont know too much about the education in pakistan. and im not tlknig about under age sex tht's the child's upbringing if they going around having sex b4 marriage...but if they are having unprotected sex and getting pregnant then dont you think knowing about sex and how to have safe sex is better then getting your self knocked up for a lifetime.........
How else one can become pregnant? it does boil down to sex ..
when you see an unmarried teen pregnant, are you not thinking that she had sex, or would it be too cheap to think like that?
First of all why si it any of our business how she got that way, whether she's married or unmarried or was raped, what diff does it make?
I'm not advocating sex ed for 5 year olds, but a little bit of true, sound education is needed, the type of education (street, media, etc) that exists now is NOT helping matters very much.
And as for teen pregnancies i think there's alot more going on, in terms of upbringing, emotions, circumstances, rather than just not knowing the biological facts.