My dad went to the home of a friend of his today who has two sons.. one of them is living with his gf and their baby.. his other half is white but I was shocked when he told me they aren’t married.. Just heard of someone else whose Muslim ex bf got her pregnant but they aren’t together (he is some UK Pakistani ‘celeb’ but is denying the child is his).. Not sure if the girl in the second example is Muslim but she is desi..
It’s VERY common to be in relationships here and some parents are fine with it but I thought there was still a lot of social stigma when it comes to actually having kids without marriage?
it's NOT the kids' fault so we must NOT hate the child as they are hated and called names in our society. these out-of-wedlock babies are called "H------I"...it's the fault of the parents of such kids and they are the ones we must be upset with.
Things are definantly changing i recently heard a college friend of mine her sister has had a baby and she isnt married..muslim family.. My hubbys cousin did also.. (His chaachi is a hindu revert and had her two daughters ,one of whom has had a baby out of wedlock..out of wedlock before his chacha and her had a nikaah finally lol) It is pushing the limit abit but nowdays nothing is suprising anymore
Wow....I haven't come across this either....at least not with desi couples (ie. having baby and still unmarried). I know 2 Indian couples where the girl got pregnant and they got married. Both couples had been dating for years and were planning on getting married anyway. But when the girl got pregnant....lol.....the engagement, wedding....everything was done within like 2-3 months...BEFORE the girl started showing.
^Yeah, I've heard of girls getting pregnant then marrying quickly before the child is born but never couples actually having the baby first before now.. My dad told me that when he went bk to Pak he would sometimes get approached by parents whose daughters had gotten pregnant and they'd ask for advice on abortion as well so sex before marriage is obviously not just a 'modern' thing.. It was just kept quiet more..
Like Saeed said why not just get married.. even if done later it gives the baby (and mother) that extra security..
Across Pakistan, outside many Edhi centers you will find a child swing with caption. "Do not Kill, Just Put the Child Here". And the child in question is the one born out of wedlock.
There are few private medical clinics where they've put instruction boards for patients and relatives and I saw with my own eyes an instruction saying "Illegal abortion cases are not dealt here, please do not force the doctors and staff to do so".
For me its not uncommon for girls to get knocked-up before marriage even in Pakistan. But bringing the child in this world is not prevalent as much as in west. As soon as the family knows about this, they have only two options. 1)- honor killing or 2- quickly marry her off to an unsuspected guy.
yeah....haven't heard of anyone not getting married but staying "together" for the sake of the baby.
the people that I know had the "rushed" weddings and then claimed the baby arrived "earlier" than the 9 months when, in fact, the 40 weeks were actually up.
My husband's ex girlfriend's brother got some Spanish girl knocked up. It is an openly known thing. He also did not marry the girl. Oh and my best friend's SIL cheated on my best friend's brother with some guy. She got pregnant, then went back to Pakistan to abort the baby!
My husband's ex girlfriend's brother got some Spanish girl knocked up. It is an openly known thing. He also did not marry the girl. Oh and my best friend's SIL cheated on my best friend's brother with some guy. She got pregnant, then went back to Pakistan to abort the baby!
is this in the UK or USA or Canada? how sad! is the last couple still together?
