Re: Kids in Pakistan are raised tougher than than kids in US/UK
Because I grew up here and all the Pakistani kids generalizations reflect on how I was as a kid.
Re: Kids in Pakistan are raised tougher than than kids in US/UK
Because I grew up here and all the Pakistani kids generalizations reflect on how I was as a kid.
Dear God.
You are not a part of my khandaan as far as I know. So chill. I said the kids from my khandaan are like that. And I'm talking about aaj kal ke bache .. again mere khandaan wale. Every family is different and I am sure you'll find chalako kids in the west as well as you'll find shareef and bholay bhale bache in Pakistan.
Re: Kids in Pakistan are raised tougher than than kids in US/UK
Not only in your khandan , in mine too. My cousins are so chalak when I go there I feel so dumbo man. 
Basically, they live in such environment where they learn about gossiping and back biting, it brings up the fight among relatives I think. You see, Star plus dramas show you the crap goes on in Asian society,it is same there. Kids here mind their own business. They go to school, come home, have lunch, go to masjid, come home, do home work, chit chat with family and go to sleep. Oh and we have much more busy life here , school time starts 8:40 to 3:30.
Re: Kids in Pakistan are raised tougher than than kids in US/UK
This. :k: You 'll find different type of people everywhere but I am sure a lot of people 'll agree with me and Wendy.
Re: Kids in Pakistan are raised tougher than than kids in US/UK
And that Dad jee has been telling me how parents in West often don't know what their kids are up to at school. Because the Western desis are pretty chalak in their own way. They know they need different set of rules for both home and school. They learn to compartmentalize. So while the parents assume their kids aren't chalak, they're actually being duped by the kids.
Again I haven't even observed this myself, just my dad's observations.
Re: Kids in Pakistan are raised tougher than than kids in US/UK
And that Dad jee has been telling me how parents in West often don't know what their kids are up to at school. Because the Western desis are pretty chalak in their own way. They know they need different set of rules for both home and school. They learn to compartmentalize. So while the parents assume their kids aren't chalak, they're actually being duped by the kids. Again I haven't even observed this myself, just my dad's observations.
You haven't observed it yourself. That says it all.
Re: Kids in Pakistan are raised tougher than than kids in US/UK
Well Dad has. Either he's lying or stuff like this happens.
Not that you were anything like this, but there might be kids, who just get sick of all the rules and learn to work around them. Because when everyone else is doing something, it can't be wrong. Some kids just try to fit and first gen parents not knowing anything about the school experience are oblivious to what their kids are up against.
Re: Kids in Pakistan are raised tougher than than kids in US/UK
What I don’t get is how your Dad would know what the kids are doing at school. How does he know they go to school and do chalakiyan or whatever? 
What do parents in Pakistan do differently from parents in the West that they know exactly what their kids are upto in School?
We get report cards too. You can’t cut class without your parents finding out. We get schedules too and our parents know exactly when we’re off school and expect us to be home by a certain time. I’d say your father’s ‘observations’ were a bit off.
Re: Kids in Pakistan are raised tougher than than kids in US/UK
He's a school teach in Houston, so he knows a thing or two about what kids do at his school. Though I'm not sure about the desi demographic at his school. I wasn't talking about cutting class. I was talking more on the lines of drugs(especially at public school), experimenting with sex or simply changing when you get to school, just cause the clothes that your parents bought you weren't cool enough.
Re: Kids in Pakistan are raised tougher than than kids in US/UK
Are we comparing pakistani kids in pakistan to american kids? Or pakistani kids in pakistan to pakistani kids in the west.
Re: Kids in Pakistan are raised tougher than than kids in US/UK
But the Pakistani kids in the West aren’t isolated from their American peers. Just saying that a lot of American rubs off on them too, and sometimes it’s in direct conflict with what they’re being taught at home.
Now either the parents know this’d happen and they have plan to minimize the damage or they don’t know about it or are too busy work, assimilation etc.
Re: Kids in Pakistan are raised tougher than than kids in US/UK
Reminds me of my dad attended my last Parents evening at college when I was 18 years old. It depends where you come from,I have seen worse kids in Pakistan and far better kids here in the West. :rotato:
Re: Kids in Pakistan are raised tougher than than kids in US/UK
But the Pakistani kids in the West aren't isolated from their American peers. Just saying that a lot of American rubs off on them too, and sometimes it's in direct conflict with what they're being taught at home. Now either the parents know this'd happen and they have plan to minimize the damage or they don't know about it or are too busy work, assimilation etc.
I can not speak for everyone but none of the pakistani kids I know who were raised here are like that. They're all good, ghareloo kids. And I know this because I grew up with them and we never did anything to make our parents loose trust in us.
My daughter will be going to school in a couple of years and I am not afraid of sending her to public schools at all. It all comes down to how you raise your kids.
Re: Kids in Pakistan are raised tougher than than kids in US/UK
Of course you can. Just that Pakistan is familiar territory, the parents know what's happening.
Re: Kids in Pakistan are raised tougher than than kids in US/UK
I can not speak for everyone but none of the pakistani kids I know who were raised here are like that. They're all good, ghareloo kids. And I know this because I grew up with them and we never did anything to make our parents loose trust in us. My daughter will be going to school in a couple of years and I am not afraid of sending her to public schools at all. It all comes down to how you raise your kids.
It's just that he always paints the most the horrible picture of what if "you had grown up there".
Re: Kids in Pakistan are raised tougher than than kids in US/UK
Of course you can. Just that Pakistan is familiar territory, the parents know what's happening.
I guess that's why some parents in Pakistan trust their kids blindly? They seriously don't know what's going on even in Pakistan these days.
Parents in the west tend to be stricter with their kids because they're not in Pakistan anymore and feel like they need to keep a closer eye to what their kids are doing.
Re: Kids in Pakistan are raised tougher than than kids in US/UK
It's just that he always paints the most the horrible picture of what if "you had grown up there".
LOL :p
Re: Kids in Pakistan are raised tougher than than kids in US/UK
My mom never trusted me blindly, up until I got into university.
Re: Kids in Pakistan are raised tougher than than kids in US/UK
LOL :p
Nothing to LOL about. It was something along the lines of, "You'd come home one day introducing your girlfriend with your kid and her other kid." And that's back when I was 15.
Re: Kids in Pakistan are raised tougher than than kids in US/UK
Generalizing much?
Can we just come to the conclusion that every parent and child is different? Be it Pakistan or the west. You will find different people in both places. Pakistan mein bhi chalako maasiyan and badmash larkay milte hain. Those who have affairs and do drugs and what not.