I’m getting so frustrated lately. When I was growing up, I had 2 other siblings and we three were very close in age. I now have the same situation.
My mom never hired a babysitter until we were around 8 years old. She handled Parent-teacher conferences, doctor visits, food shopping etc etc. and it was always understood by others that she had more than one child to care for. We had such a lovely childhood, area kids came to the door to ask “can so-and-so come out to play?” and we’d just play till Mom called us to come home.
I’ve had so very many situations lately where I’ve been told to hire a babysitter. Doctor visit for my eldest. Parent conference for middle son and eldest son. Whenever I am invited anywhere, I have to inquire whether my children will be welcome. If you want your kids to socialize, you have to make arrangements way in advance for “play dates”. People in new yawk seem to just assume that everyone can afford (and likes to have) full-time nannies. Is it the same everywhere? WHere on the planet can you go to have a real old-fashioned family without nannies or au-pairs, without making such a huge f-ing deal about playing, where you can bring your kids anywhere and everywhere you go???
Mr FG, yes I have seriously considered Pak and I know the lovely family-type life you can have there. The biggest drawback is the lack of special-needs services there...my eldest has speech delay and needs therapy, this is sorely lacking over there so he would not thrive there as he can here. As far as desi homes, thats fine but what to do when you have to go outside the home? Houses here are tiny, we have no room to live with extended family, even when we do have close family over for more than a few days, everyone is at each others throats. Is this New York, are things better in other states?
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No they have special need services but they are pretty expensive. My cousin's son was born with down syndrome and he is been having therapies, etc for almost 12-13 years now.
Yes, over there the number of facilities are limited as compare to US but they do have in all the big cities like Karachi, Lahore, and Islamabad.
Yes, NY is pretty conjested state and specially NY city. Over here in Fl people who have kids of same age do help each other alot, they can leave their kids with each other etc. One good thing about Fl is that people are really friendly, they do activities as a community, they help you out whenever needed, they really live like a community.