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Abroad?
Of all the people I personally know, the only guy to make a girl pregnant without being married to her did so in Pakistan.
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overseas
maddy you are here to hit at others or what....we know very well that what we pakistanis are doing..but cant help it..:(
what kind of kid are you?
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My point is that kids get up to mischief everywhere. Pakistanis abroad to bad things and good things, and Pakistanis back home do bad things and good things.
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my point is.......pakistani kids are not able to CALL POLICE even if they know that their parents are doing something wrong.....but how do you guys handle situations like these ...when you know that you CAN do whatever you want ( even those things which are not permissible accoring to pakistani islamic parents).....
will you stop yourself on your own if you find your parents aginst you from calling police .....?
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should parents call police if they see their kids doing something wrong? my friend got arrested bcoz of his own stupidity. all his parents did was to let him learn his lesson the hard way. unfortunately he was not as smart as they thought of him.
anyways, i've spent my entire life abroad with my family. my parents never stopped us from doing anything. yes they were always quick to point out our faults and were always there to throw in an advice or two. they never forced us to do anything nor we took any interest in doing anything wrong or bad. for me it all comes down to a better understanding between the kids and parents. i've seen bad ones in pak and here in canada and same goes for good ones. however, the only difference i've seen is about control. in pak parents have the final say in everything related to their kids but in western countries parents are in charge only if they don't cross the limits set by their kids. here the only job parents have is to support their kids until they are old enough to take care of themselves and after that you are out of their lives. its pretty sad to see that parents who care too much gets a bad rap and parents who don't care gets the same. often its difficult to maintain a balance bcoz kids these days knows how to stay a step ahead of their parents.
i'm lucky enough to have parents who have trust in us and they have treated all of us [sons and daughters] equally. never had any curfews or there were any restrictions on any of us. my sister was never forced to come home early or not to stay out late with her friends. the only requirement was to call home and let mum/dad know where she [same for us] was and whether she will be staying at her friends place or no. she always had full trust and support of our parents. fair enough, she never did anything bad to make them upset. my sister did had a BF and i knew abt it. she also told my mum later and mum never made an issue of it.
end result: happy family :p :D
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changing the environment can't make up for poor upbringing
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absolutely right...skkhan
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Most of my friends, family members, and myself didn't really get into the stuff that seems to prey on the minds of parents when they think about raising children in the west. Having the influence of both eastern and western cultures is really important to me, and I think that we've all mashAllah achieved a nice balance thanks to open-minded and sensible parents and supportive family/friends. I do know a few people who probably do stuff that I wouldn't do, but I also know many who have changed and become much more observant of religious and parental commands.
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I can bet a million bucks that kids here are way better than kids in Pakistan.
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without affecting privacy, lets just say i went through what u posted in your opening post.. lil harsher conditions.. but that wasnt new... i was over-protected since childhood so i dont recalling leaving house for fun/hangout purposes..
it was more like not having enough believe than over-protection..had to cope with it ..few times rebellious thoughts took over, but nothing serious popped up...
its more like ... "wht goes around, will come around" (luckily it didnt)
in 2000 i started hanging out.. A LOT! had a girlfriend in life.. when family found out, they were upset... before got my cell, girls from highschool/work casually used to call, and it was part of life for me.. family never said NO but they frowned upon receiving a call..
EVENTUALLY they got adjusted to this.. cuz phones were everyday thing... and few of college friends used to come home too...
nobody however pointed finger that YOU ARE DATING? HOW DARE YOU? family eventually started to believe, that i am old enough to screw up and take the heat for the screwups.. but had to work REALLY hard to get that privacy/independence..
will continue more.. need to have breakfast (after months i am up in morning)
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This is I fail to understand, why dramas show only the -ive of it? No question that there are many kids here just like the one shown in drama, but there are almost the same %age of kids here (if not more) that are pretty much like kids in Pakistan (ok language and dressing apart). I m still waiting to watch a drama on Pakistani media which actually depict these families which are better than many in Pakistan.
There are families like shown in that drama but that is due to many reasons and of one the main being pointed out by Sara that guys have more freedom than gals. Guys can do the things that gals can’t do just because they are girls and if they do such things (hanging out late at night even with girl friends) tu "LOOG KIA KAHEEN GAAY"
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decent..ap nay shayad sara thraed nai para...
they are showing two themes in the same drama......both..negative and positive....
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In my experieces, yes i have faced problems like these. No i have never and no asians i know of have ever foned the police bcos of their parents and vice-versa. I think it’s really hard for parents abroad to raise kids. The ones that grew up in Pakistan and then have children abroad, they so want the best for them, but we all get caught up in 2 cultures. I think it’s worst in our teenage yrs, when we want a lot of freedom. And it’s so easy to say back to them “well this is not Pakistan…we’re not in the 60s…that’s so old-fashioned”…at those ages, we don’t see their side of things…i know i gave my mum quite a hard time, i wud say i am the rebellious one in the family. But once we grew out of that awkward phase, we fell back on the great upbringing we have had and now we know there is a right time and place for everthing. It’s hard growing up being torn btwn two cultures, and u go thru weird stages…but in the end most of us end up pretty balanced.