Kharcha

Lifestyle Relationships
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So is a man giving his wife money every month, as an allowance/pocket money, considered insulting or is it her right?

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insulting? Gosh which world do you live in.

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It may sound ridiculous to you but some people believe allowances are for kids only and from what I have gathered, most women who work say they would feel weird getting money from their husbands.

and frankly, if the decision is forced on one party, then it is pretty insulting I think.

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Depends on whether the wife is a homemaker. My mum for example gets a monthly kharcha from dad for running the house. She then also forces random allowances from my dad when she wishes..lol.

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If the husband feels it's his right to give his wife a personal allowance even if she is a working woman, how on earth is that insulting?

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My dad gives all the money to my mom…and then my dad gets kharcha as and when needed :bummer:

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I personally don't think that it's insulting, rather it's the wife's right....but some wives have khulla kharcha, meaning they have access to the joint accounts and such and aren't questioned for what they spend, while others are on a strict budget....and while one may sound favorable and the other sounds unfavorable I think what it comes down to is if the couple discusses it..

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I think every couple has their own system that works well for them. My mum and dad don't have a joint account, my dad has always given a fixed 'kharcha' (which is ever increasing due to inflation). My mum has her own account in which my dad can make random deposits. Also the house we live in was bought and built by my dad but registered in mum's name. So while my dad is generous with my mum it has never been khulla khata nanga nahata.

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insulting? I find this post insulting … :hmmm:

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its a right i think!!! i get pocket money :) but usually it goes in my savings as all my needs are met from "kharcha" which is a fixed amount but i ask for more if needed. i think budget is a good thing.

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adhi sey ziada dunia ka "Kharcha Pani" isi kherchey ki badolat chal raha hei

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allowance is definitely degrading, imho. not an equal household.

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if a husband gives his wife an allowance/kharcha every day/month------that is not insulting at all. if wife finds it insulting then she should find a job herself. secondly insult will come where the husband stops her from working and says only i will give u kharcha and u will have to survive it.

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how about we revise your question a bit: Lets say this is budget and only this much you can spend so we can meet the obligations in the end of the month.

Living in the means and knowing what they are or being remind by the spouse is not insulting at all.

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wait so am i to understand that kharcha/allowance/pocket money are all different things? :konfused:

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MAy Allah the almighty bless your dad! Ameen
And may all other mens out there ( who dont do that) follow your papa's footsteps. Ameen

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Ok guys, what if the husband is not giving the money to this wife for ghar ka kharcha, then bivi kia ker sakti hai? As you know there are some countries in which the government pays money to the wife for ghar ka kharcha and for bachay's, and those wife mostly depend on that and it doesnt even last that long. So what is the bivi suppose to do? go and beg others or wat

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Why doesn't he give her?

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because he feels that uski bivi akhati ker rahie hai paissay or back home bejti hai apne family ko and mian ko haq nahie milta save kernay ka :S like wth

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exactly,.

kharcha do to museebat, na do tou museebat. Aisa karo tamam mardon pe mitti ka tail chriak ke aag lagaa do