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It's true...some girls have the time and make the effort. Whilst growing up u don't have access to everything but with time u do...some girls are very materialistic and OTT!
You need to be classy and have the personality to carry things at the same time as being selective.
When everyone tries to out do each other they all look the same! Everyone has the same cloned look!
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But having said that its nice to keep up with things/events and people otherwise your life is sucked into this whole routine which u don't break away from.
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Um, no they're not. Most of the fashionista I know haven't even completed community college, and if they have a job, it's a part-time job or working at their family's small business.
There is a lot of illegal business going on in the families around here that we've seen, which is why they can afford the clothes they do. Yeah, call me a jealous whatever, but it's a fact. I can tell you the main families that have weekly gatherings here - a majority of them are involved in illegal activities. Their daughters sport designer desi clothes, and their sons drive BMW's. Meanwhile, baat karne ki tameez nahi hai.
And when they get caught, and all their cash flow stops, you hear of them flying back to Pakistan, because America was becoming too sinful to live in.
curious to know. what kind of illegal business? ppl ive come across in the usa, theyre all 'normal'. educated, and earn well and yes buy the good stuff.
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In small businesses, not limited to some desi businesses, the illegal stuff that goes on includes food stamp fraud, selling smuggled and or black market items such as cigarettes, paying people under the table so you dont incur payroll taxes, paying them below minimum wage but they dont show income so they dont pay taxes on that anyway, cash based transactions to show lower taxable revenue. In medical practices you see medicare and medicaid fraud, over billings, etc etc.
Keeping Up the Social Life
See, I find this a little ironic, or maybe im just confused about the post. for those girls that ARE working their butts off, I would think would be the ones that could ACTUALLY afford to keep up their looks with whatever expensive clothes, even if it is once in awhile, but only if they wanted to. No?
If your desiring to have more of a social life but can't manage the time for every event, I can understand. But why is the affordability an issue? Aren't you working for the reason to give yourself a better life? Unless your working hard to make ends meat to support your family, I don't know why you shouldn't you be able to shell out for an outfit or two to atleast keep yourself in the game a little? IF that's what you care about and would like to feel a little with the in crowd? Everyone in my circle and husbands circle are majority working wives with families, no one is incredibly rich or anything but most are financially independent because they are working with stable income so that's the only way, the new fancy clothes, accessories, etc are possible. My friend is a pharmacist who does 10-14hour shifts every day, even with three children, I rarely ever not see her at social events because that aspect of her life is just as important to her. So she works hard to keep the balance even though most times it's a nightmare just getting out of the house and still managing to look good with the latest outfit. I think it's about finding that balance if you want to, it's probably not easy but it's probably not impossible, just depends on you I would think. I was never that big on fancy dawats before but that's because growing up having the latest hsy wasn't a big deal. Remember the good old days? I like attending social events now because I just like having the excuse to get ready in desi clothes. Western events just aren't as fun to get ready for, and being able to afford these things because I'm working makes it worthwhile. But I'm not a workaholic or anything, just regular full time but I'm still working hard and sometimes you RSVP to things and come the day of you don't feel like attending, but once I'm there I usually have a good time because that keeps me sane I find, not having social things to go to would be to dull, i need change of environment from the same routines. i dont go to everything though, i have to pick and chose with time and my commitment to the person hosying. Sometimes getting there is the hardest part! .... Kind of like getting to the gym and some days work lol