For those of you who are married or are considering marriage:
Oscar Wilde once said, “I admire the institution of marriage and I believe that every woman should get married – but no man.” Well, we can hardly take his word for it, knowing his lifestyle marriage would be the last thing on his mind!
The four C’s - Compromise, cooperation, communication and commitment are hallmarks of equality in a marriage. Marriage is not like a game of chess where winning is your only goal – Remember girls, when you think you’ve won a war in a relationship, you’ve actually lost the battle in the long run. The problem with us is that we’re always trying so hard to be equal in a relationship, that we forget that trying to have equal rights and a smooth marriage are two very delicate matters, which need to be dealt with tact.
Its not about who wears the pants in the house but the key to winning and staying blissfully happy is about silent power. How does one attain that? Is it through being a submissive wife and keeping your feelings to yourself? I think not, at least not in this day and age. The secret, my friends is to remember that if both of you value each other equally; you will create the best opportunity for love and happiness to thrive. It is when that basic value and respect diminishes, a marriage falls apart. When both partners do not feel short-changed is when feelings of goodwill and cooperation flourish.
If you are not a commitment orientated type – the advice would be not to marry or if you are married – get divorced! A commitment is different from a promise. We may view promises as obligations to others. A commitment, however, is a pact with oneself – a much harder promise to honour. It requires planning and work in order to follow through and to keep to the commitment. The commitments we hold, plan for, and follow through will shape our lives! Many people take commitments lightly; this leads to unhappiness and a marriage that will always remain rocky. Such people really need to grow up before they consider marriage. We get married for stability and security that’s achieved from keeping our commitments. Not an easy task, think before you promise or commit, because only you will be the loser if you can’t deliver.
It may all be very well to paint this simple picture of a key to a perfect married life but it all comes from mutual understanding and realization that its all about give and take and where it is all very well to say that compromise is important, that doesn’t mean we as girls aren’t entitled to our way as equally as the guys are and nether does it mean we ever need to compromise on our values.
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