I’ll be graduating from college soon, and as time comes near, I wonder if I’ll be able to keep in touch with my college friends? I haven’t kept in touch with anyone from high school, except one memon girl, and that’s really only because she’s a good family friend I’ve known since she was born.
I always refused to sign yearbooks in highschool because I would tell my friends, “Why should I write a long good-bye message to you? We’re friends, and friendship doesn’t end after graduation”. The response always was “Well, it will be hard to keep in touch”.
To which my response was always “Even if we dont keep in touch, that doesn’t mean our friendship is over”.
I still really believe in that. People I’ve made bonds with over time - the memories of those bonds are still alive, and no one can kill those.
But friendships just aren’t the same if there isn’t that same communication involved. I look back now to the highschool years and I’m ashamed to admit that I remember very few names. My sister has made friends with people who have older brothers, sisters, and cousins who apparently knew me and were friends with me. My sister will tell me , oh so and so remembers you - they said hi. Almost always my response has been →
But then you know what? Life goes on and almost no one has the time to keep in touch unless they really want to. What does that show about the quality of most of our friendships?
well it depends sometime, in my case, I keep in contact, not in constant contact though.
but i kept my friends from childhood, school, college, university. they are all in my contact though we are all in different countries now.
it takes little bit of effort sometime. one suggestion, - dont delete any mail from a friend in your inbox without replying no matter how long will it takes to you reply. :)
I kept in touch for a couple of years after h.s. and after college but after that I haven’t bothered. I think about my friends sometimes (even those from elementary school days) but never have consciously tried to make the effort to locate them.
It is a horrible habit of mine which I haven’t been able to break in a long time, and I’ve never worked on fixing it either.
Maybe both you and I PCG like temporary relationships??
but no, that's the point of my thread - i dont like the idea of temporary relationships, and I dont think that my moving on with your life and moving away ends a friendship.
it depends on how much of an effort you make. some people from my class have managed to maintain their clique from their uni very well, staying in contact over msn/phone etc. its easier now than when you were in high school.
but yeah, contact is paramount. every relationship is temporary, and without contact, weakens.
