keeping in contact with spouse

Lifestyle Relationships
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Is it normal to.get spouse on daily.messages/ whatsapp etc whilst they are.on pilgrimage. And normal to expect it.

How.much contact did u or give. Or receive whilst away to ur spouse.

Disclaimer: am.not complaining

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Re: keeping in contact with spouse

yes.

but try not to expect long conversations.

let him concentrate in his spiritual journey..it might be a one of a lifetime experience for him so i suggest you help him make the most of these few days.

as a wife you will be worried about his well being , so a text when his day is over can always be nice :)

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Re: keeping in contact with spouse

LOL @ Disclaimer

Being away on Hajj is different than being away for some other reason like business etc. With all the facilities available today, Hajj is still a gathering of 2 million+ people. Its not easy to get in touch even above that, once you are there, you just want to spend as much time as possible in remembering Allah and praying. They try to concentrate more on their spiritual journey. Allah janey phir mauqa miley na miley. Yes people do contact back home to check if everything is OK but they rarely have a "aur sunaoo kia haal chaal hai...kia ho raha hai" type conversation.

Business and other trips are different. I normally use skype every night with begum and bachey when I am out on business trip in addition to calls that I make whenever I get a chance.

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Re: keeping in contact with spouse

this is not specific to spouse but I think its still applicable. We were kids when my parents went to Hajj, I must have been 13 and my siblings were younger. I remembered always being worried about them but they couldn't even necessarily call every day and when they did it was a quick call to say everything was ok and they loved us. I think with Hajj there's so much going on that its not so easy to call or contact people regularly. In those days they didn't even have wats app and stuff but they did have their cell phone.

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I didn't talk to my parents the whole month. They called every so often but coincidently my grandmother got the calls when I was busy or away. These days people are practically doing photo blogs in real time during hajj so things have obviously improved but even they pause during the major 5 days. Too much chaos so the person on hajj should decide how much contact they can have and not the other way around. Everyday is probably not feasible.

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it ok to have some level of expectation, but honestly, wifi is almost unavailable, and data plans are also very sketch in Mecca and Madina. I am not sure how convenient it is doe him to whatsapp you everyday

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Re: keeping in contact with spouse

my parents called me everyday for a couple of mins to check in if I am alive

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Re: keeping in contact with spouse

Well.he does
Daily.

But.he seems.busy

He doesn't come on whatsapp on. Friday as its jummah prayers and they have a early trek and so unable to. And he's tired and all. But still he can SMS on a Friday.

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Re: keeping in contact with spouse

Busy tu hoga na yar! He went there for a purpose. I know when i went i even slept the minimum and spend max time at kabah praying.

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Hazaar hasles ho sakti hai k mobile saath rakho... Gir na jaye! Maybe he keeps it in room and spends max time at Kaabah.

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Re: keeping in contact with spouse

Yaaa.I.know all.that but still.feel annoyed.

Lol.

When will I grow.up

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Re: keeping in contact with spouse

The fact that you have realised this is childish is quite a hopeful start.

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Re: keeping in contact with spouse

when we went to hajj ...in the few days during hajj eg mina tents there is no way of charging your phones so we couldnt talk just a few txts ..but we called home everyday just not during hajj