Keeping contact with a friend who has PROPOSED?

[snowy_winter]

Re: Keeping contact with a friend who has PROPOSED?

^ Ditto that!

[tayyab278]

Re: Keeping contact with a friend who has PROPOSED?

what kind of friendship is this if you cant discuss your problems :S

your friend should tell everything to that guy even whats her intentions and that she doenst want to commit.

If the guy really likes her he should understand and wait. Otherwise if someone cannot understand you they are not meant for you. then when you know this its easy to limit or even stop all sort of contacts.

if you know that train wreck will happen then be quick and make it happen, so its easy to clear up the mess.

[DaffyDuck]

@kaun

Sorry but i do not understand female double standards, why i say that a year ago i started liking a very good friend of mine we have been friends for a lot of years now, any ways for the longest time i did not tell her anything but i did tell her that i liked this girl and always asked her as to what i should do? khair every single time i asked her that she said go for it, the worse that would happen is rejection and that wont be the end of the world so finally i built up the courage and proposed her one day and guess what not only did i get rejected i lost a good friend, what i dont understand is girls (specially in our desi culture) expect the guy to come forward with feelings as they would never take the first step but when a guy does that he becomes bad and not worth keeping friendship with.

Secondly DaffyD out of all the names in the whole wide world y did u choose DANIYAL :D. Saali meree kahani mujhee pey repeat !!!

Firstly, in this case Sarah did not force Daniyal to tell. It was totally out of Daniyal’s will to tell her so the double standards of your story do not apply here. She has already told him that it is a No from her as she does not plan to get married now. When sarah’s sister gets married and its her turn she will see what can be done. The question was is it something wise to do to keep contact with this friend?

Secondly, i just randomly picked a name. Its quite a coincidence that the story and name are same.

@tayyab278

what kind of friendship is this if you cant discuss your problems :S

your friend should tell everything to that guy even whats her intentions and that she doenst want to commit.

If the guy really likes her he should understand and wait. Otherwise if someone cannot understand you they are not meant for you. then when you know this its easy to limit or even stop all sort of contacts.

if you know that train wreck will happen then be quick and make it happen, so its easy to clear up the mess.

Where did i say that they cannot discuss their problems? Sarah has come clear with her opinion of not marrying now so the point is already clear to Daniyal. Its him who is so seriously involved that he dznt want it to end. Sarah is already clear on the fact that she dznt want to marry, what she is confused for is that whether or not she should continue contact with him because he has been a good friend of hers.

@CuteGurl

ek to mujhey larkiyoon ka samjh nai ata EVERY gurl knws beforehand if a guy likes her or not…we pick up frm the way the guys talking dude IT GETS SO OBVIOUS! & u knw ur not intrested tht way say it bfr hand in other ways like tell him abt ur new fake crush,or say im not ready fr it nw in common conversation n if hes really dum thn say casually tht if i guy even asks me out rite now i wld have to say no im jut nt ready fr it or even tht im trying to hook u up wid my bestfrnd!!! gurls have 100000001 reasons of backing of n keeping dere frndship safe but they feed on the attention they getting bfrbeing asked out frm the guy they knw likes them n they let it go on fr too long till the cheewing gum breaks n he pops the question aftr tht even if u try the frnship cnt be same again…!!!

so for all the gurls PREVENTION IS BETTER! use ur typical xcuses thts our power lol

I dont think it is that easy to guess all the time. Sometimes when girls and boys are normal friends its not easy to judge the true intentions - everything is taken as friendship. Even if a guy is just fooling around, girls sometimes think its just flirting for fun nothing serious. Its only when the boy comes clear of his intentions that it is OBVIOUS that he likes her till then its all just DOUBTFUL.

The reasons you have given above, she already has used them and has made her point clear of not marrying him but its him who is still stuck at the marrying thing.

[Amour]

Re: Keeping contact with a friend who has PROPOSED?

i had a friend similar to sarah in here, I liked her, for some reason or insecurity i proposed her i guess too early, she wasnt expecting it i guess or didnt like the idea. she told me the decision politely, we stayed as friends, speaking to each other, but it was awkward for both of us for a while because of the situation. later we had contact and discussed many things as normal friends, were able to overcome the situation once created.

so I guess, sarah should come out and tell him whats the truth without saying any hanging on indication.