Keep your friends close..

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Keep your friends close but your enemies closer.

Does anyone actually adhere to that? And enemy is a strong word, so maybe someone in your life who is passive aggressive, or a gossiper, or in general someone you may be a bit wary of their intention. Do you keep people like that close so you can monitor them, or keep complete distance from people who have a negative influence in your life?

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I CUT off ppl like that...I don't care to monitor them as I don't want to waste my time on such weirdos...and I do have a few like that...

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I have started to develop a zero BS policy. I don't have any issues cutting people off. In fact, it's quite liberating. Keeping dishonest people in your life is draining on your soul.

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I cut people off. I’ve done it for a long time and intend to carry on. However, this has got me thinking about a friend who basically keeps her enemies closer. I told her how I cut people off the very moment they hurt me, and she said that it wasn’t a good thing because ‘you may need them later on’ which is why you should remain friendly towards them. Urm…oookay. :bummer:

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Keep them away, I don't want to know what's going on in their lives nor do I want them to know what I am upto. It makes life easier!

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I have always cut people like that off. Don't have time for their BS

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Generally I don't want to have anything to do with anyone who has hurt us in any way. But recently I made an attempt to mend some relationships, but the way it has been misconstrued, boy! Let's just say for all my lectures to others on listening to both sides of the story, level headedness, and other glorious quotes that make for a lovely advice, when the tables were turned I was far from the rational being that I thought I was...ahem. So no more efforts on my part to bridge the gap! Gah!

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In your private life you have a choice to completely cut off people.

But the quote works in a professional sense. You got to keep a close eye on your adversities.

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Keep your friends close..

Good thread. It's true I never thought about this but I too cut people off and keep a complete distance from negetive people or people who bring drama in my life.

I have some friends who are eastern born and raised fresh from Pak and have seen them adhere to this. I stay out if their paki drama but have close family ties so just get snippets of their stories and I've observed these girls
continue to talk to the girls they out right don't even like, not like just in a civil manner but try to maintain actual friendship, while talking about them to others. don't know if its for show or just catty, probably both.

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It depends on how much they know about you and more importantly what they know about you. If they're in a position to really hold you emotionally hostage then hell yes you keep them closer.

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Like njgal said, this quote is probably more suited to those in competition rather than people who have wronged you.

Unless you plan for cruel, sweet, delicious revenge ofcourse. In which case hold them close to your bosom, gently squeezing out of them their last breath.

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This can work but is very difficult to implement.
e.g. workplace - as njgal said, you simply can't eliminate the negative component
e.g. spouse's friends and/or friend's spouses - you may enjoy the company of one person but find the other to be totally draining......no choice, must tolerate.

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Nope.

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if u know some1 hates u keep a distance :)

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This quote is used out of context. This quote is from the God father which is a fictional movie. The God father had a lot of enemies and had to keep an eye on them. Bascialy spy on them so he would have a political relationship with his enemies but that doesn't mean that he chilled with his enemies and ate pakoray with them over the weekend or went to watch Kal ho na ho replay in a really weird desi theater. But that being said you shouldn't keep your enemies close you should be very careful with whos your enemy. You shouldn't be friends with them.

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I used to cut people off, but when you're swimming in a shark tank, you'll find that you can get isolated very easily.

It's not worth cutting people off. What's better is to watch their games, do not indulge these people, and let them see that you're not gonna give them a reaction cuz it's not worth your time.

It drives people crazy.