Can anyone give her/his view on the phenomenon of keeping in touch or the strategy of moving on?
Does it just depend on one’s personality type whether he/she keeps in touch or not? Can you tell who is likely to and who isn’t.
Is there a difference in the newer generation? Are we mostly of the mind that it hurts too much to live in the past so move on/ there is so much more to experience/ we have changed so much or do we still care about old friendships?
Are you in touch with childhood/ schooldays friends?
I consider myself very unlucky in this matter. I'm not in touch with ANYONE from my school or childhood. That really hurts. Even when I tried to search them on facebook, I couldnt find anyone. :(
Im still in touch with a few school friends.. altho not regularly, infact not regularly at all. the only contact we do generally have is over MSN or Facebook otherwise its not really there however we have planned to have a get together after many years and its something im really looking forward to! =D
I am a person whos really lazy but sooner or later i make an effort bcoz i feel almost guilty lol
Can anyone give her/his view on the phenomenon of keeping in touch or the strategy of moving on?
Does it just depend on one's personality type whether he/she keeps in touch or not? Can you tell who is likely to and who isn't.
Is there a difference in the newer generation? Are we mostly of the mind that it hurts too much to live in the past so move on/ there is so much more to experience/ we have changed so much or do we still care about old friendships?
Are you in touch with childhood/ schooldays friends?
It depends on personality and circumstances. Sometimes you can lost touch with your closest friends as you get busy with life's chores. No you can't really tell who will keep touch and who won't. Like I said, sometimes your closest friends can lose touch........not because they dont' like you.......but because people get wrapped up in their families, jobs, problems, etc. And getting in touch is a risk you have to take. You can rekindle connections if you take the first step.
But you have to understand not to expect a time schedule for "keeping in touch". The other person doesn't have to email or talk to you every day or every week. It could even be a couple of times a moth.
Also, keep in mind that some people respond better over phone than they do through email. And some people respond better meeting in person compared to communicating through phone/email. Everyone is different.
However if you're getting the vibe that someone is consistently ignoring you.....then just maintain a distance and move on. I don't think it's a generational thing. I've seen people live in the past and struggle with moving on. Everyone is different. Some move on better than others. If you know that a person has hurt you.......then it's best to be practical and maintain a distance from them.
I consider myself very unlucky in this matter. I'm not in touch with ANYONE from my school or childhood. That really hurts. Even when I tried to search them on facebook, I couldnt find anyone. :(
Same here. It seems that my siblings have kept in touch with their friends. I just had a score of bad luck I guess.
Well, my problem has been that I have lost touch with pretty much everyone from back home. My cousins don't talk because they are shy or busy or just don't care. I find other friends online but feel that they have no need to keep in touch with me since life for them goes on as it was whereas I have had to turn over a new leaf.
It's even harder to look back know since it's been so many years. If I find them on facebook or something now, I find that there just isn't any of that connection anymore. I am probably also stuck in the past because the life (with the freedoms) I expected in Canada didn't turn out to be that way.
I guess I had intially decided to move on but I feel guilty that I thought so because it was difficult to move on and the hurt remains. Now, I am just ambivalent about whether I should keep in touch with friends or not. I am not so much in touch with my highschool friends because it is sort of mutually understood that everyone is busy with their undergrad studies or busy new lives.
It depends on personality and circumstances. Sometimes you can lost touch with your closest friends as you get busy with life's chores. No you can't really tell who will keep touch and who won't. Like I said, sometimes your closest friends can lose touch........not because they dont' like you.......but because people get wrapped up in their families, jobs, problems, etc. And getting in touch is a risk you have to take. You can rekindle connections if you take the first step.
But you have to understand not to expect a time schedule for "keeping in touch". The other person doesn't have to email or talk to you every day or every week. It could even be a couple of times a moth.
Also, keep in mind that some people respond better over phone than they do through email. And some people respond better meeting in person compared to communicating through phone/email. Everyone is different.
However if you're getting the vibe that someone is consistently ignoring you.....then just maintain a distance and move on. I don't think it's a generational thing. I've seen people live in the past and struggle with moving on. Everyone is different. Some move on better than others. If you know that a person has hurt you.......then it's best to be practical and maintain a distance from them.
It definitely seems to depend on personality. Some people make dozens of not so close friends and then move on and make some more. Or it's okay for them not to be nostalgic about close friendships either.
Others (like my sister) are so into friendship that they remember the birthdays of their friends from kindergarden.
I was never a phone person. Besides I wouldn't call Pakistan.. lol. Emails dwindle away after the intial rush of finding/ being found. I guess it is simply the distance that is so discouraging and makes it all pointless.
I have friends in university though who seem to have more keeness for keeping in touch or more replying to emails etiquette. I think I should get out of the past and cherish these new people :D
It really depends on the people involved and how they evolve. If someone wants to leave school days behind and move past them, its upto him/her and there is nothing you can do about it. Your only choice is to move past it and let them get in touch with you when they are ready. A lot of times people dont remember their past with fondness and in that case...they need time to get over it and be able to talk about it without bitterness. Hope that makes sense.
Ive been lucky in the regard because Im in touch with most of my school friends and regularly make it a point to organize dinners/nights out/lunches to see them. Periodically, I send out emails to see how everyone is doing so we have a thread that keeps getting updated with peoples' whereabouts and news. I guess now that I look at it, its mostly me who keeps everyone together but I like knowing my closest friends are those who have seen me in my highs and lows and can only offer sincere and honest advice/opinions/insight/etc.