I know as first-time parents, you’re constantly given unsolicited advice, you’re bound to have conflicts with older parents (i.e., the junk food thread going on right now), …I’ve read enough of first-hand accounts from mothers saying that they’re always made to feel guilty about their decisions (intentional or not)…
sooooo…
Does it ever stop? with multiple kids or when they get older?
Does the guilt ever go away? do people stop criticizing you or stop giving u advice? do you feel that grandparents ever start to relax and let you raise your child the way you want them to be raised?
With 1 kid and being a mom for about 2.5 years,in my experience,it does not get better.The mushwaras and 'you dont know-s' and 'you not doing it right-s',keep on coming.
You just learn to ignore them.In one ear,out the other...!!
It does. The same grandparents that went berserk offering advice and feeling like their insides were bout to burst at the seams with emotions of full range, simmer down a WHOLE lot when kid number 2 comes waddling around. they have said all the had to with the first... Dne everything they could .... And the boundaries have been tested and set by everyone including the patents...
The second kid could go jump off of a cliff... No me would care. Everyone is exhausted after the first.
This is how it's been for me with both sets of grandparents... And other aunties and their frogs. Everyone..
Life is good...
And we as parents don't give a hoot either anymore... Things that would have left us raging with the first kid... Now we don't even bat an eyelash.. Oh gee look at that... Genie is licking the floor... Quick let's see what else she will lick!
Ok taints an exaggeration... But u knowwhatimean
A weird thing though that I'm seeing even with myself as well as others... The first kid stays n the limelight!!!!!! Has midget had his food, what will he eat, is he drinking soda now? He looks thin... Is he feeling ok?!!!!
Is madness... We can't get over midget! I wonder if any other mother is going through this?!
Or maybe cuz genei's an easy child it's easy to overlook the easier kid and let the focus remain on the harder one? In which case, maybe the "u don't know what u are doing" may remain for quite some time until the kid has grown much older
Though I don't get to hear much ... With what lil I ever had to..
i have also seen this,as automne n khwa said, all these giving advices etc is for the first child in the family...n then for second child it would be easy for mothers (to raise the child with her own parenting style) as well as relatives n grandparents........
not sure... I am going to see what happens with the next. I do know, my own mum has backed off a lot this time and is letting me do things the way i want... it may be because she has her hands full with other kids at home and knows my sis is about to pop with the second very soon as well.. I dunno
I will see what happens with the advice and all, Inshallah in a months time