boi, you missed my point here. First of all, most things taken in careful moderation are not unhealthy. Wine, for instance, taken in moderation, has been shown to actually be beneficial. Pork, when handled and cooked properly (as with any other meat), proides protein and is actually lower in saturated fats than many cuts of beef. This is not to say that I'd ever encourage a Muslim to eat pork or drink wine. But the vast majority of westerners grow up with this. ANYthing taken in extreme is usually harmful. Pork and alcohol, when taken lightly are not. They are forbidden to Muslims and Muslims should not partake. But the divide comes when these fallacies are propagated that at the first sip of a beer, you become an alcoholic. Or you eat a slice of bacon and wake up dead the next day. Or that to go to an office party where people can have alcohol (if they WANT to) is forbidden, its not. You can attend, you can drink soda and you will be welcome to do so...and to avoid such is to to be somewhat rude, condescending and unaccepting. Right and wrong is sometimes dictated by the country and the culture that you choose to live in. So Boi, I'd recommend to you that you avoid living in any western country if you are this adamant and inflexible in your views of what is right and wrong.
Girl
Pork, even taken the slightest piece of it is unhealthy. If you want to eat the dirt of a pig then eat it. No one is stopping you, but coming here (i.e. Boi) down like a big girl is not what GS wants. I don't want to eat a animal which eats it's own children, eats garbage, eats mud and stays in the mud. If you want to eat, eat it. You have to go to Allah and answer him.
I did not say that it is forbidden to partake in such gatherings, I only said it is not recommended by our Rasool-ul-Allah (saw). If you can't live with that and call it somewhat rude, then it is your Problem, not mine!
Second,
we have seen what happened to People who were pious, righteous. It is only a step in such gatherings and they all ended up drinking alcohol and they became alcoholics.
So Girl
If you know nothing about Islam inform yourself first hand and calculate the if's and not only what is right or wrong. I'd also recommend you to refrain from sentences like "Don't live in a western country blablba" garbage. Who are you to tell me where to live? Do you think Islam is a Religion only for Muslims? This is a code of life for the entire world.
I do not take it serious, IGNORANCE is wide spread in this world and you surely belong to this movement of IGNORANCE. This is why I close my eyes and let it go.
GIRL
YOU MISSED MY POINT
next time, watch out. I only mean the good things for you!