The nikah ceremony; if its held in a hotel and both sides invite equal no. of of guests. Should the groom’s side foot the bill or the bride’s family or both the parties i.e. the boy and the girl’s side of the family split the bill in half. Already had my nikah and we splitted it in half but I want your opinion, whats the norm; is there any consensus/ hard and fast rule regarding this or is it upto the families to decide.
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It depends no set rule. Its either shared by both families or ladies side host it.
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nikkah itself is hosted by the bride's family. Her dawat to the groom's family. Walima has the opposite concept.
However if the nikkah is done and you now want to celebrate it in a form of party then there is no set rule about the cost allocation.
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Traditionally, Nikkah and Rukhsati are hosted by bride's family and Walima by Groom's side.
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Traditionally n also in islam as well all the payment for wedding shuld b done by groom side thts what i know about
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Everyone is different but I have generally seen the girls side pay for the mehndi and nikkah/shaadi whereas the guys side pays for the walima. In my opinion though I feel that the girls side should pay for the mehndi and do the nikkah on the same day and the guys side should do the walima. The burden of two events on the girls side is a lot.
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Traditionally (Desi) the bride's side foots the nikah, mehndi and rukhsati, heck even the engagement party.
Now my Arab acquaintances, the groom's side foots majority of events.
Where I live we are seeing split costs between both bride/groom side. Also seeing one big /one wedding/walima function hosted by both sides.
Traditionally the girl's family but I've seen many families where its divided specially when the girl's family will also be required to pay for rukhsati.
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Either the girl's side pays for all the events EXCEPT walima OR both sides split everything equally. I have never seen a desi wedding where the guy's side paid 100% for the nikah/rusksati.
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The brides side host the Nikkha, so they pay for the event. The clothes and jelwery are typically gifted by the groom's side.
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In our circle the girl's side hosts/pays for the nikah dawat and the groom affords the valima.
And if you want to get really pedantic then the imaam executing the nikah is selected/hired by the bride's side but paid by the groom's side.
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From what I've seen:
Mehndi when the couple is together and both families are together, is split in half.
Baraat/nikkah/rukhsati, the girl pays for it
Valima the guy pays for it
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For my wedding, everything was paid off by my husband. my wedding dress, gold and gifts were the only things we covered. Functions to furnishing our apartment was all taken care by so. But then when ever I tell this to someone, they are taken over by surprise. it all depends from family to family. My set up was such only because my in-laws reside in the middle east with arab values
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Yeah exactly in arabs culture also all functions shuld be paid by groom side