Just wondering! Don't shoot!!

[Deeba1234]

Re: Just wondering! Don’t shoot!!

@kakee

So as the topic suggests I’ve been wondering about why people obsess with just marrying their own kind even though they seem to have no luck? If they have the same values, religion etc etc as you do shouldn’t they be at least considered?

I’ve never been through the rishta (omiai as they call it in Japan) process since I’m not desi nor do I come from a rich or traditional family.

So what makes you consider somebody as marriage material? Their nationality or bank account? or is it something entirely different?

Some ppl just aren’t interested in a partner from another race, maybe they don’t feel an attraction to ‘outsiders’ but more often their families wouldn’t be keen or might not even accept their son or daughter marrying a non-desi.. For a lot of ppl they just might see it as too much hassle.. Apart from the ‘emotional’ stuff there might be practical problems eg religion or relatives don’t speak much English (or whatever other language) and it might be difficult for them to communicate.. Some also worry that their kids/grandkids won’t grow up speaking their ‘mother tongue.’ Most of these problems can be overcome but for desis in particular culture and family are very important..