Just talk about yourself.

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We all are grown up now having different personalities.Our childhood was also not the same ,though we all were children.
But I wonder that what was same and what was different among us.I mean the things which made me laugh ,made you too? Or the things which made me cry were also same to you?You people will think that of course they were.But I think ,we had different personalities from the very childhood.Some of us were very naughty,some were quite,some were stubborn and others very obedient and so on.

I just want you people to tell about your childhood experiences, your joys and your troubles.
How did you cope with them?
How did you use to think about the world in your childhood.Do you find world the same or not?
Did someone help you making your life easier or you created your ways on your own?(other than parents)
What was friendship to you?
Your first crush?
Your hatred?
Your love?
Did you find everything you wished for?

The most important of all
“Has your childhood influenced your existing personality?”
“Do you think if your childhood were different ,you would have been different?”

Do reply to my questions please.

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You are raising some very good questions , congratulations to you.

But what do you think any one would be able to reply to all of them , even some of them, as Every question would need background to explain so to make understandable.

But your query still has reply , you know where and what is that ?

If you donot know , then ,

Go to Blogs World of GS where GS people are Purely telling about theirselves , their activities and many things more.

At least My Blogs have some of your questions answered.

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Thanks for liking the topic Entisar.Finding such blogs and the posts related to personal experiences isn't easier.And here in this forum people from all walks of life communicate and are from different nationalities.
Anyways, it was a nice tip from your side.What's the URL of your blog?Can you identify me the links of those posts related to my topic? Even if you visit others' blogs and have found such stuff ,let me know ,please.

If you can't consider all the questions ,then just reply to the following questions.

*Please, friends remember that I'm not asking these questions for fun or to explore your personal lives.I want to collect some data to understand child psychology.And I think this is the best place for this purpose.
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@ Entisar ,

Ok ,I have got your blog,it's great.In fact I spend very little time on the forum.That's why didn't know about these GS blogs.

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GS is great in many other respects , just stay tuned here , in your free times.

and search for Many other forums

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I think I would have been different person (more stubborn) if my childhood had been different, for example if i had not found at the age of 13yrs that my older 3 bros were step bros, It changed the way I looked at them eventhough nothing else changed just the thinking, u know ur acting the same but at the back of ur head that thought is still there and i was always looking for a change of attitude in them and my parents.

I dont know its hard to explain, but when ever something went wrong or did not go as i wanted it to between me and them, i would put that down to the fact that theyre not my real bros. i cant explain it that well

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oh yeh and also moving countries also had a big effect on my way of thinking, if i had not moved to UK then i think i would have turned out to be a confused desi however relocating means that I have got to meet people from different cultures and backgrounds which has not only changed my attitude and behaviour towards people but also i have more knwledge and respect for people from different backgrounds

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Is this for a specific research project? mind providing us some details about the nature of the project... and how you'll use the narratives from GS in your findings/report?

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wow
you are into child psychology. :hmmm:

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hmm child psychology. i find it an almost unbearable subject have you had freud,skinner, albert bandura and pata nahi something berner or benner or what.

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apney bhi child psychology kee hai .
Interesting

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No ,this is not a research project, nor am I a psychology student.I'm Eng.literature student .And you know ,we have to understand the psychology of characters if we want to understand literature.

I'm not going to write any thesis.I'll just discuss this topic in my classroom with my teacher and class fellows.In fact ,we are studying the character of Maggie in "The Mill on the Floss".

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i went thru everything all by myself(ofcourse i cudnt have done it without Allah ta'ala and my familys support)..but here i mean no friend ever helped me anyway..maybe because i liked being myself most of the time...as am a quiet person and dont share much with others...but recently(like som years back) i did share alot with someone..and that someone turned out to be the very first closest and real/true friend i ever had..and the time we have been in contact is the longest..and this one person also turned out the be(and still is) the first person i ever fell in love with..and this person also turned out to be the only person who has manipulated me the most and the only person(besiedes my family) who loves me the most..and the only one who hates me the most...teh person is very nice only that my personality is a bit dodgy..not tht i am myself a dodgy person but it's just how people tend to think about me..so what i am today is in a way because of all that ever existed between me and this nice 'person':) and a lot of other people and events in life as well

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thanks for the clarification :)

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"Has your childhood influenced your existing personality?"
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Yes, definitely. I am the youngest of all my siblings and yet I never had anyone to look out for me growing up. Not at home and not at school. I was bullied in both places until I went to college at 16.
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The bullying taught me to never be a bully and always to stick up for the people that can’t stick up for themselves. I never had bad influences from people who were *y, nasty and rude; hence why I am neither of these things. *
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*I was pretty much alone (no friends) until I went to college and made some real friends. The time I spent alone at home and school made me more independent. I knew I couldn’t rely on anyone. I couldn’t rely on my father to support and provide for me so instead at 16, I started working part-time alongside full-time college for three consecutive years to save for university. *
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*Because I never had friends in school I was never betrayed as I had no-one to trust who could betray me. That meant in later life I made the mistakes of trusting certain people when I shouldn’t have. I learned I trusted too easily. *
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*Growing up, I had certain people telling me that I was useless and would never amount to anything. That gave me determination to prove them wrong. Despite some failures, I still succeeded in attending university and attaining a first-class degree. *
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*Because I had a tough time in my childhood, it was only in my late 20’s after being married that I was able to let go of my past and not use my past as a “justification” for the reason why I behaved or felt a certain way (if that makes sense – Hard to explain in detail and would be way toooo long).
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My childhood had influenced my personality in that I am not a *y or a nasty person like the people that would bully me. I am more honest and sincere like I wanted people to be with me. I am a strong believer in treating people the way you want to be treated in return. *
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"Do you think if your childhood were different ,you would have been different?"
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I think if I had money and was rich and popular, I don’t think I would have been a nasty person in school/college. My Mum is a very humble and patient person and I think she would have taught me to be respectful and appreciative of the things I had been blessed with.
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If I had been raised in Pak, I would definitely be way more different than I am now. In every aspect of my lie I would different, from the way I talked, dressed, socialised to my career choice and goals of life.
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It’s hard to answer these question without a whole lot of background and understanding of the subject and the subjects past and current life. But here’s my 2 pence worth on the matter…

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You shared yourself with just one person because you thought that sharing your feelings with everyone was not right .Of course ,everyone does the same.
We don't discuss current affairs and every general thought secretively ,but when it comes to our feelings and emotions we try to find a confidant.

So, I want to ask that what are those feelings or thoughts we don't want to share with others?We like to keep them secret.What were those secrets (I mean feelings ) in our childhood we were hiding from others.I'm stressing on childhood feelings. Do you know why were you so quite throughout your childhood ,and when you found a person whom you could trust ,you shared everything.

Pardon me, if you think I'm getting too personal.

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Thanks Barfii that you replied to my questions.Your post shows that the bad behaviour helped you grow your personality positively.That's great.

But would you like to tell me what were your feelings at the moment when people bullied you or passed rude comments on you? How did you deal with them?