My brother’s wedding is in 2 months time, things were going relatively smooth but some things happened and my father had a fight with my mother’s family. They are a bunch of soft natured nice people but because of one person things got out of hand and my dad ended up giving quite a piece of his mind.
We dont have strong bonds with our paternal family and mama’s family are all who we relied on for most of the things. We all had nice smooth fun filled relations with cousins and now things are stale. Apparently, my father is quite rigid and is planning on not calling some of them. We have all separately discussed with him but he is quite the sort who doesnt move from his decisions. Its effecting us all but he is still angry and as much as i know him things are not going to get better.
Now i am all worried that there would be no fun on my brother’s wedding. I had so many plans for the mehendi but now my cousins wouldnt come for the dance preps, dholki and not even sure if they will be invited for the wedding. If my father isnt okay with them, nothing will happen. I am not siding with any of the people but i feel my father did go a little too far and fought with people who werent even related to the matter much. Overall, i dont know how things will be. I wouldnt be able to enjoy the wedding if even one of those famileis arent there. Its going to be really really stressful for us. My friends arent the sort who do much on Mehendis so even if i call 3-4 of them not much difference would be made. Who would hold the mehendi thaals? who would bring the groom in? who would do the dholki? who would do the luddi? the dances? the rasams on the baraat etc. I just have one sister who is out of Pakistan and wouldnt be able to make it to the wedding due to some Visa issues.
I dont know how i am supposed to enjoy the event or make it enjoyable for our guests when the immediate family wouldnt participate much. As for talking and sorting it out with my father, leave that aside we have alllll done that many times but to no avail.