Don’t you just have one of those weeks/days or months where you miss someone soo much :(…for me…it’s my dad…this whole week i’ve missed him so much imagining how my life would have been with him there through every step. Imagining how my MUM would have been with him there.
Then when i think about it the question that always worries the hell out of me is “what would happen to me and my bros. and sis. if something happened to my mum” because i know that no-one would keep us as their own if something did happen to her…and it scares me so much…and sometimes it feels like the whole world is on my shoulders. I mean what if something DID happen to mum, then? i would be left on my own…and yeah i’m a negative thinker
And sometimes i think so much that i cry and cry for hourssss, and it always leads to the past, which makes me angry, and these days i just feel like crying out the anger inside me…you know what, i’ll just hug myself
So who is it that you miss the most? The person who left you and makes your heart ache so much?
Yes, it happens. I have no option but to pray for them and learn to live with it, by focusing on the positive aspects which Allah has blessed me in life.
aww sweet.i.f i can understand your pain...your parents r the most imp people in yr life and the only people in yr life who luv u sleeflessly and unconditionally. There is absolutely no replacement for the loss of parents. What you can do is only pray to God and find peace and strenght from him. I do believe that when Allah puts you through hard times he is the one who gets you out of it too so hang in there. I can understand your fear abt losing your mom 2 it is but very natural. But try to be optimistic though i know its easy said than done but hey you cant lose control on your life like this and bury yrself under all the stress of fearing what mite or mite not happen.
I can understand your feelings cuz i am a very sensitive person too...though Mashallah se my parents are with me happy and healthy but i cry when i think of leaving them when i wl get married. It's kinda funnie to hear but ya thats how i m...i m still studying and there r no plans of my marriage in near future but still that thought has been making me cry many atimes at nite since few yrs. But at the end i give myself peace and strenght by thinking of God and by realizing he is gonna be there with me alwayz and if he has made such a life pattern than girls leave their parent's house after marriage than he must be the one who wl give us the strenght to adjust to this change. Same is the case when you loose some1 though ofcourse its much tougher but eventually you adjust to it though i do believe you can neva get over it completely and its natural.
As you said you have been missing your dad very much this week...well i thnk its naturally there are times when u remember your lost ones more than ever...when u wl get married u wl remember him more...it keeps happening and you dont have control over it but it wl help if u share it with yr mother or any1 u r most close 2. Cry your heart out...it also helps...dont keep it in yr heart...share like u have done with this topic. I hope you feel better soon and Allah miyan bless you with so much happiness that you find very lil time thinking of your tough times. And Inshallah you mother is gonna be there for you at every part of your life. Good Luck and give yourself a big, warm hug from my side.
Yes, this semester has just been the worst in terms of missing family. I was crying a lot the whole first month I was here. Now its not as much but I still do sometimes.
It's affected my studies.
And I wont be seeing family till Augustttttttttttttt, insha'Allah. afsoos
Its very hard...i know how it is to lose a parent. My dad passed away 2 yrs ago on new yrs eve and i do miss him loads. New Yrs eve is neva the same now. But stay strong and allah will give u the strength.
Sweeti - It’s just the way life is I guess,..I’m fortunate not to have lost anyone who I have been really close to but I am always fearing what will happen when I do
U know ..Allah sitting above there …knows whts good for us …also one more thing …When u getting tough , toughness gets going …thn u start taking it easy … Everyone has to die one day …u know wht they say …
Har kisee kay aanaay ka waqat maquarer haii par janaay ka nahee … for coming in this world …first grand pa coem s , thn father , thn his child ..etc …
When one’s die , nobodies knws ..kab kiss ka number aa jay …
So the least we can do …Just love our family as much as possible …
kisee kaa bhee dil naa dukhieeh …and hum say sub khush khush ..houun …
so tht 2end …allah will aslo be happy with us …thts all
