Just got married a few weeks weeks ago...

[Sara516]

@kiran_bride2be

I have just got married a couple of months ago, and I am feeling really down at the moment.

I work about 10 hours a day (including travelling). I am expected to make dinner every night for my husband and mother and father-in-law. After that, I have to wash up and clean up. I don’t get help from husband or MIL.

At weekends I spend most of my time cleaning and cooking. The house is always left in a mess. Husband is very lazy, for example he just takes his clothes off and throws them on the floor, he is last out of bed, and leaves it in a mess.
I tried talking to him about it, and he said he is stressed with work, and he wants to come home and just relax.

My MIL is ill, she is diabetic. I do not expect her to help me, but it just would be nice if my husband picks his mess up.

I am constantly feeling tired, and feels like I don’t get any time to myself.

Do your husbands have similar habits?

Unless they are the types that deliberately make a mess after you clean up, OR they demand a fresh cooked 3-course meal every single night, you can help yourself by not being so crazy about cooking and cleaning? There are a few things that you can do to minimize your time in the kitchen…

Are your husband and in laws okay with you working? Because I find that men who are okay with their wives working tend to be more relaxed wrt housework…if you are finding ti difficult to handle both (work and home), is it possible for you to cut back your hours or quit work for some time?

Also, about your MIL…being diabetic doesnt mean she’s disabled. Its okay if you dont want her to work and it wouldn’t be wise of you to ask her to help you out but don’t think of her diabetes as an excuse for not doing anything.