Re: Just friends?
First off, do NOT cut off any ties with your friend. I would never do that; it would make the other person feel betrayed or left alone.
Second, you MUST talk to this guy. You have to convince him that there was nothing between you guys and never will be, because you value a great friendship instead of a relationship. Relationships can ruin them too.
Now that would make an awesome topic of discussion! 
^^that is already being discussed somewhere else lol
I personally do not agree with anyone who suggests she should talk with him before cutting off.
As it is:
She has no feelings for him.
He has no feelings (as we know or are made aware of) for her.
Why do we want her to contact him just tell goodbye?
She has no feelings for him and even she does have, she is engaged to and will be married to someone else.
She should just go "cold Turkey" on it.
And if she does not and her future husband finds out she is in bigger trouble.
So, no contact with this guy friend ever in her lifetime is the only solution.
And more importantly: If she has no plan to let this man go out of her life, then she better tell her to be husband clearly about him.
No if, and or but there.
I totally agree with this m sorry i dont care if he feels betrayed she should txt him and say m sorry we cant be friends anymore if she is that concerned abt him feeling betrayed but quitting cold turkey would be best
First off, do NOT cut off any ties with your friend. I would never do that; it would make the other person feel betrayed or left alone.
Second, you MUST talk to this guy. You have to convince him that there was nothing between you guys and never will be, because you value a great friendship instead of a relationship. Relationships can ruin them too.
Lol I like you.
I shall take on board your advise, I value our frendship and I don't want it to be short-lived. I'll leave it up to him when I talk to him.
If I know him as well as I think I do, the reason he has never said anything about liking me in that way is because our friendship is so important... my epiphany for the day. :D
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Ofcourse if our talk doesn't make a difference I know I'll have to break it off with him.
The reason having a chat with him is a good idea is because he isnt a bad guy. He hasnt hurt her or done anything wrong to her…he is one of her best friends…the least he deserves is some sort of closure. Without closure, it will be very difficult for him to get over her…we dont want to make things hard for him either.
Mera student! 
:k: It seems like you really did try to avoid your friend for a long time, but you can avoid someone for only so long, especially if he/she is a good friend. You’ll rarely see him after you get married. So I might be giving advice that people will disapprove of… but you know for sure that you’re not in love with your friend, just make sure he’s on the same page. Continue talking to him about your fiance and he’ll get that he won’t ever have a chance. Don’t go cold turkey on him unless he says that he likes you and wants to date you. Keep in mind that your fiance knows about your friend right now, but guys can be possessive, things will likely change when you get closer to your wedding and afterwards.
Re: Just friends?
for some reason i don't think your fiance from pakistan will like the idea that you already have another guy who you consider your best friend!
Re: Just friends?
Its always good to have frnds, whether male or female
Re: Just friends?
Fiance-ji has plenty of pretty girls strutting their stuff around him trying to convince him to marry one of them instead of me. He knows these girls and they actually say this stuff to him! So I'm sure he's alright with me having guy friends that like to have arm wrestling competitions with me, play pool, paintball and race. My friends at least have the decency not to flirt with me. (Although I doubt it is called flirting in this context), def not since I've been engaged.
I trust him, I expect him to trust me just as much.
Is it bad that I want the two of them to be friends?
Is it bad that I want the two of them to be friends?
Only if they can avoid talking about you and getting possessive over you. I don't see anything wrong with it. Who knows, your friend and fiance can end up being closer than you and your friend.
Fiance-ji has plenty of pretty girls strutting their stuff around him trying to convince him to marry one of them instead of me. He knows these girls and they actually say this stuff to him! So I'm sure he's alright with me having guy friends that like to have arm wrestling competitions with me, play pool, paintball and race. My friends at least have the decency not to flirt with me. (Although I doubt it is called flirting in this context), def not since I've been engaged. I trust him, I expect him to trust me just as much.
Is it bad that I want the two of them to be friends?
You're having a bout of Bella Syndrome..(Twilight charachter) Having the cake and eating it..
Inside of you , you know that said "friend" has feelings for you and as you liked him in the past, you don't want to go cold turkey as it must be nice to have someone who knows you and likes you for who you are but I assure you that no matter how many girls are running around your fiance right now.. it will nark him to know that you are friends with a guy who is not muslim in a western "mahaul" where he can't see or hear about what you do
Engagement and Marriage are not comparable.. let's get an update from you once married to see the changes in hubs and you ...
For you to write here about it, shows you have a conscience so maybe go with your gut feel of what feels right...
Re: Just friends?
Talk to him openly about it and if that does not help, cut the ties. When I say cut the ties, I mean cut the ties. You should start your new life without any baggage.
Lol I like you.
I shall take on board your advise, I value our frendship and I don't want it to be short-lived. I'll leave it up to him when I talk to him. If I know him as well as I think I do, the reason he has never said anything about liking me in that way is because our friendship is so important... my epiphany for the day. :D
haha thanks.
Cutting off ties won't be worth it anyway, its like throwing away old friends who should have some meaning in your life