i have a 2 and a half year old beautiful daughter… and i am expecting again… just had my 20 weeks ultrasound and found out that i am having another girl… even though i love my daughter more than anything in this world… but for the second one i was really hoping for a boy… i cant really share this news with my husband cuz he didnt want to find out the gender of the baby and told me not to find out… but i found out without telling him … i feel so bad that i didnt listen to him… i havent told him yet cuz he wants it to be a surprise…
Congrats! May Allah give you a safe and healthy pregnancy & a smooth and easy delivery, Ameen. Boy or girl, it is a blessing from Allah. I think you should tell your husband, you will feel better. Otherwise you might spend your whole pregnancy feeling guilty and uneasy that you are keeping this secret from him. Or maybe just tell him that you found out and ask if he wants to know, perhaps he will still want the surprise
congratulations! hope you have a safe, easy pregnancy and a healthy baby.
you should tell your husband that you couldn't resist and know the gender .... offer to tell him too if he'd like to know....
if i were you I wouldn't blurt out the news .... gotta respect his wishes to not know ....
Girls are Allah's rehmat. Many congratulations. It's nice to have one of each but sister look at those mothers who are so desperate to have a baby. It's a beautiful gift/blessing. May Allah shower you with lots of blessings. Don't feel guilty...or uncomfortable. I would definitley mnetion it to hubby that you have found out and that if he wants to know then share the news.
my husband was the same, the first time he didnt want to know, but i said i knew, so he couldnt resist and asked me half hour later....same thing happened again, he asked me last week after my appointment if i knew, i said yes, he said ok....went al quiet, then half hour later `okkk telll meeeeeeeeeeeeee now,,,,,,
Thanks everyone.... i guess i will tell him when i have my next ultrasound.....i know girls are Allah ki rehmut and honestly i am so thankful to Allah for a daughter already... i am only concerned about the future.. living in canada just making me more conscious towards girls
Congratulations with your pregnancy. May Allah give you a healthy child.
I understand you were curious to find out. Your husband is probably curious to find out too. Perhaps he won't dislike it that much when you tell him about it.
The positive thing about knowing now is the chance to adjust to the situation. Sometimes our people have the negative tendency to dislike daughters and to make a problem if you don't have a son, while the most important thing is just to have a healthy child. Unfortunately our society is often unfair in that regard. But now you can become strong in your mind and if anyone dares to say anything negative after delivery, you are prepared and you know at least that Allah will bless the parents who raise daughters lovingly.
This brings back memories of my preganancies. I'll share some of them. I was at my parents home after I was pregnant, my mother accompanied me to hospital for the check ups. Once we found out my first born would be a girl, she was angry with me for weeks! She said inlaws would make a problem out of it and that it was my punishment to have a daughter and according to her I must have done something wrong to be pregnant of a daughter, etc. She forgot how in Islam daughters are considered a blessing! I for myself was only happy about the words 'your child is healthy and growing as it should, we don't expect any problems when it will be delivered'. And the delivery was fine alhamdulilah. I had a lovely healthy baby girl, my first born. I was so happy! I was unprepared for a baby, I didn't even want a baby yet, but was pressured into marriage and motherhood, once I held my baby in my arms however, I was happy to be a mother. And guess what, once my mother held my daughter in her arms, all her negative words and feelings about my firstborn being a girl vanished! Unfortunately, inlaws did make a big deal about my firstborn being a girl, especially my mother in law (while her firstborn had actually been a girl too!!!), she said hurtful things about my having a daughter. But my daughter and I were happy with each other and Allah protects the wronged. Now many years later, I have both a daughter and a son, they both make me equally happy. They are both happy and intelligent children with excellent characters.
May your children be healthy and give you much joy in life. What really counts is what kind of human beings they become, male or female. May you have a healthy pregnancy and may you have a save and easy delivery. Ameen. Insha Allah your husband won't mind about your curiosity and finding out the gender of your child, insha Allah he will be understanding. :)
so i finally told my husband... first he didnt believe me cuz i was telling him different stories even when i didnt know then i showed him the pink clothes that i bought.. he was okay with it... just said i shudnt have tried to find out... then i explained to him that i did it for myself... cuz i am already dealing with depression and it will give me enough time to adjust to the news... so finally everything has calmed down....
thank you all for your support
… i feel so bad that i didnt listen to him… i havent told him yet cuz he wants it to be a surprise…