To Neha:
What is the age range of these collegues that you had this discussion with? I'm going to assume all these women (including you) are 35 or under. Please correct me if I'm wrong.
See how much success you have finding people (men and women) who're in their 50's, 60's or older, who remained single and do not regret their choice to never get married or have a family.
I know plenty of people (desis and non-desis) who're in their 40's and older......who're "lifelong bachelors" or divorced(currently living alone). In my personal experience, very few of these people are happy. Most are lonely....they see their friends, siblings etc. with their spouses, kids........and when they're older, their parents die, their siblings get married and start their own lives.....and that's when reality hits.
Don't get me wrong....if a man or a woman choose to stay single all their life, then that's their decision. Personally, when I'm 65 years old, I would like my husband and/or kids in my life to support me. I would like to grow old with a partner by my side.
As for comments on the failure of marriage....the responsibility lies of both men and women. Thanks to the influence of Western culture, everyone is about "personal freedom" these days. It's all about "MY happiness". Everyone wants the other person to compromise. Our mothers, grandmothers etc. didn't feel like way.
At the end of the day, its all about what's important to you. Some women these days value their career more than family. Some value their personal freedom more than their family. There are other women who will sacrifice themselves for the sake of their husband/kids. There is nothing wrong with either group.....BUT the mistake people make is that they're not honest about their priorities BEFORE getting married. If people were honest about what's important to them....with their future spouse AND with themselves, then IMO we would have a lot less divorces.
None of them wanted to get married ever (if given choice)..
Forgot to add, if these collegues get married as a result of society/family pressure....then they should not be surprised if they end up divorced or in a unhappy marrriage. Once again, wrong reason to get married.
Same is true for men. Most men prefer to get married only if they find a woman who is willing to be a typical housewife who is willing to do evrything for them and their families, or they prefer to stay single.
To Neha:
What is the age range of these collegues that you had this discussion with? I'm going to assume all these women (including you) are 35 or under. Please correct me if I'm wrong.
See how much success you have finding people (men and women) who're in their 50's, 60's or older, who remained single and do not regret their choice to never get married or have a family.
I know plenty of people (desis and non-desis) who're in their 40's and older......who're "lifelong bachelors" or divorced(currently living alone). In my personal experience, very few of these people are happy. Most are lonely....they see their friends, siblings etc. with their spouses, kids........and when they're older, their parents die, their siblings get married and start their own lives.....and that's when reality hits.
Don't get me wrong....if a man or a woman choose to stay single all their life, then that's their decision. Personally, when I'm 65 years old, I would like my husband and/or kids in my life to support me. I would like to grow old with a partner by my side.
As for comments on the failure of marriage....the responsibility lies of both men and women. Thanks to the influence of Western culture, everyone is about "personal freedom" these days. It's all about "MY happiness". Everyone wants the other person to compromise. Our mothers, grandmothers etc. didn't feel like way.
At the end of the day, its all about what's important to you. Some women these days value their career more than family. Some value their personal freedom more than their family. There are other women who will sacrifice themselves for the sake of their husband/kids. There is nothing wrong with either group.....BUT the mistake people make is that they're not honest about their priorities BEFORE getting married. If people were honest about what's important to them....with their future spouse AND with themselves, then IMO we would have a lot less divorces.
Shame on you for implying that a womans’ worth is MORE than just her cooking and cleaning capabilities!
