Do you think that the boys in families where the fathers are abusive/Chauvinist or overtly dominant would grow up with certain characteristics, like for example not being able to love or finding it difficult to communicate to opposite sex or ultimately facing difficulties finding the right mate, I some how think that this is the case but I can not substantiate that.
What do you think.
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Its been the case most of the time, but sometimes they are opposite. Depends what kinda feelings they had when they were growing up, how their mother treated them and if they hold grudge against their father then they turn out to be pretty well. However, if the abusive talk gets into their brain they might turn out to be like their father.
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yeah! numerous studies done. although any study cannot be 100% reliable....i would think that in this case it is enuf to conclude that an abusive background results in difficulty making and maintaining relationships. also speaking from my own experience.
alot of stuff goes into building our personalities but childhood experiences and our relation with parents/siblings shape our personalities in a great way. alot of kids want to imitate their mums and dads.
when u have an abusive father it might result in a kid thinking this is actually a norm esp if they have less contact with the outside world.
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Depends on whether or not these boys were emotionally, verbally and/or physically abused by thier fathers. When I did my Psych degree we were told that 1 in 4 people who have been abused become abusers. Personally I have seen this to be somewhat true. However, the effects of abuse vary from individual to individual, everybody is different, building a relationship with the opposite sex may or may not be the effect of any kind of abuse, or it may be the only way is effects somebody. I would think it mostly depends on how bad the abuse was and how much the individual let the abuse effect them, theres also a time issue. There are so many factors involved in why certain people have certain characteristics which stem from abuse. I would think it would very difficult to pinpoint just one factor, in this case, the abusive father. Some children may not view their fathers behaviour as being abusive as that may be the only environment/behaviour they know.
You know, I think one of my friends used this subject for thier dissertation, although I am sure it was to do with females and not males, and I think they used culture as a variable.
There probably is some sort of correlation somewhere, as there usually always is.
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I don't know the statistics, but I'll take the word of a psych major. The other scenario would be that the kid who had an abusive/chauv father would see how much this hurts the mom and the daughters, and vow that he would not repeat the same mistakes his father did. I don't know how common it is though.
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sweet dreamz u are right, they do not take or want to handle anything bravely... don't know why??
maybe it's their fear of getting hurt..
in either case they should learn 2 communicate more n more with the other person knowing his/her lokes n dislikes .. wants and demands and facsination of the relationship.
if they are unable to communicate wholly they will loose every relation
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they shud be able 2 express themselvess more n more so at least the other person gets the idea of their likes/dislikes.
otherwise they'll be crushed irritating others also.