Just 5 years to live

and I am sorry I did't mean to come across as harsh. I can understand this situation. It is emotional but then that's how life is.

If it was me I would definitely talk to my partner (would-be). It is not something to hide and who knows, may be this open communication would bring more happiness and joy in their life.

just read the rest of your posts in this thread ......... I think this person needs to set their priorities straight. ........ and not worry about those people (log kia kahein ge stuff). We give examples in geneal that "life is too short" but in this case that is so "real" so why worry about what other people say right?