The doctor has told you that you have a heart condition and you just have 5 years to live. You are nikkahfied/engaged to someone. Would you tell them what the doctor has told you? What if you were not nikkahfied but just engaged and your shaadi was tomorrow.
Would you still go on with the marriage?
What if on one side you tell yourself that you still have 5 years to live and you have every right to be happy with the person you love and live the rest of the remaining life with him. On the other side, you think you cannot be selfish enough to destroy his life. You are going to depart after roughly 5 years, you are going to give him love, happiness, and maybe children and then leave them all. You are going to take back whatever you gave him. You are going to leave him alone and hanging without you in this world.
Who is going to marry him after you leave him? Who is going to marry a man with a kid whose wife died due to heart condition? You have so many things on your mind and the time to take a decision is fast approaching.
You want to seek help from someone and confide in someone so that they can help you come to a decision but you are hesitant and scared to tell anyone. It is a matter of life and death. What are you going to do?
You want to cry and are angry with god for putting you in a situation like this, yet you think that did not god say that I am going to test people on earth and the ones that get the most hardships on earth are the ones that will be rewarded in Jannat.
what do you do? do you call off the marriage/annul the marriage or do you go ahead with getting married and think about telling the person later on? So many questions, so little time...
whoop ....... back up .......... back up a little. you did't need to go all the way with that post.
I can only comment on the red bolded part in your post, the rest is just foggy emotional thrust.
Now plz tell me why would this person believe in what this doctor has to say. A doctor can only tell you what s/he thinks is true based on their experience or what they have been taught from all those "stupid" researches/studies. I am not gonna give up on life just because a doctor told me that's it.
There is so much to this topic but let me tell you this. If you really believe that you have only so many days/weeks/months/years to live, then that's all you really have, not one day more. you are talking about heart condition here, but there are people with spread-out cancers and other diseases who are living examples of "happiness" and those same doctors who told them to say good bye to all family members ages ago, have no words for these patients' persistence.
In this case, yes one needs to take precautions and positive outlook and discuss it all with their partner but that doctors assessment should't be the primary concern.