Two friends of mine have huge misunderstandings between them. This has been going on for months now. A was treating B unfair.
I first tried to talk to both sides. But B wanted to make up and A didn’t. So I kept silence, minding my own business, but this ‘quarrel’ influences everything, everytime I’m talking with one, she says something about hte other one, I feel I should stick up for them, I feel guilty talking to A while I know she has wronged B. And continues to think she is right herself. My Dad used to say, that you shouldn’t judge between two friends, because one becomes the enemy. (it’s better to judge between to enemies, for one becomes a friend) But it’s not working out! I couldn’t keep my mouth shut, it’s been shut about this for months. I just had to open up and tell my feelings about this. Result: I lost A totally who feels offended and still won’t apologise to B. Nothing to change her mind at all. Well I lost her. On the one hand, I feel good because I finally told her how I felt about this issue, but then again, she now feels hurt and won’t talk to me anymore.
I don’t know, maybe I made a mistake by ‘judging’ A? Should I have just minded my own business then?
this usually happens with friends....
if i am in such a situation i talk to both, but dont tell anyone its his fault....
just tell them both to be compromising....
maybe you should call the friend that is mad at you and apologize for hurting her feelings but make sure she unerstands you arent sorry for what you said because that is how you feel.
After she feels better hint at how easy it is to apologize to a friend that you love.. and how manygood times she will be missing if she doesnt make up with the other friend… 
you get what I mean right?
i actually agree with armughal with this one...
its best to talk to both the friends but dont tell them its their fault..cus a lot of the times its neither ones..
and with the friend whose angry with u... talk to her.. if she refuses give her some time and space.. hmmm apologise as well.. but dont say nething thats going to make her feel bad again..
Inshallah things will work out.. :)
Thanks for your view everyone. :-) Very much appreciated.
I tried to apologise, but A won't talk to me at all. Maybe she needs more time, maybe I completely messed up. I don't know.
I guess when you do something you have to face the consequences too..
Yes, now I know what my Dad said was true, unfortunately.
People, NEVER judge between two friends, sometimes you will loose even both for some reason.
Re: 'judging' between friends...
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*Originally posted by sadya: *
Two friends of mine have huge misunderstandings between them. This has been going on for months now. A was treating B unfair.
I first tried to talk to both sides. But B wanted to make up and A didn't. So I kept silence, minding my own business, but this 'quarrel' influences everything, everytime I'm talking with one, she says something about hte other one, I feel I should stick up for them, I feel guilty talking to A while I know she has wronged B. And continues to think she is right herself. My Dad used to say, that you shouldn't judge between two friends, because one becomes the enemy. (it's better to judge between to enemies, for one becomes a friend) But it's not working out! I couldn't keep my mouth shut, it's been shut about this for months. I just had to open up and tell my feelings about this. Result: I lost A totally who feels offended and still won't apologise to B. Nothing to change her mind at all. Well I lost her. On the one hand, I feel good because I finally told her how I felt about this issue, but then again, she now feels hurt and won't talk to me anymore.
I don't know, maybe I made a mistake by 'judging' A? Should I have just minded my own business then?
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u could use better names then A and B.. but back to the question u asked.. i would have to go with armughal's advice .. :)
Thanks Ansoon. I guess all of you are right about that. I just lost B too for some reason. I always seem to mess up, you think you do something for the best but then instead it becomes worse. I wish we could look in time. Well, life, huh.
hey im a sadia too :)
hmm i dont think u've lost either of them.. give them both time.. and Inshallah they'll come around... if ur true friends im sure it'll work out.. and if u guys arent... its prob best u dont worry too much.. i bet ur one of those kind that does worry her head off even though the other is not even thinknig bout it..
well good luck acha :)
Thanks Sadzzz, that's sweet of you. :-) I guess you're right.
no worries sadya :) i dunno if im right.... but yeah dont stress..
Oké, so now I've completely lost it. Turns out I was wrong about B... a misunderstanding. boy I've got to get my head straight for sure!
I'm not making any sence today now am I....better go off line... sorry..
wat happened? things arrite sadya?
Yeah, I'm fine. I was just going crazy this morning, that's all.
Sorry!