Has anyone heard of a “jorah rasam” where the grooms sister, cousins,bhabhis take an outfit with accessories for the bride 2 b? If you have mind explaining how its done. thanks
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I think you mean when the bridal outfit is taken to the bride’s house? In Urdu Speaking families the bride’s outfit usually comes from the groom’s house. This usually comes on the day of the mehndi. If you are not having a mehndi then just take the outfit with the other outfits( if any) and accessories and cake, Mithraism etc to the bride’s house. They should know you guys are coming. High tea or lunch/ dinner may be served.
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^In Urdu-speaking families, is the valima outfit also from the guy’s side? I like the Punjabi way…where bride gets more freedom in picking her bridal outfit,
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@redvelvet yes, both valima and barat come from the groom’s house. But a lot of families nowadays let the bride pick out what she wants and pay for it ( obviously within a budget). The bride’s family pays for the groom’s clothes.
For my wedding, my in laws leg me pick out the nikah outfit. I picked out and paid for my own rukhsati outfit and valima outfit was of their choice.
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Nah…I still like it the Punjabi way. If the bride is keen on a dress that’s out of the groom’s budget, but she can afford it…then she should be able to do so. I have heard enough accounts of brides that were unsatisfied with the dress …so I like that the Punjabi way gives her more flexibility in that regard. Better to have one of the dresses go your way as opposed to having both dresses not go your way. I’ve heard of in-laws playing games with dresses as well…saying one thing but doing another…getting opinions from the bride as to what she wants …including with pictures…and to end up with something different…and the whole fear of “Stay quiet and just put up with it…varna rishta toot jayega…laug baatain karain ge.” Seems there more potential for drama in this way…and it’s frustrating enough to deal with Pakistani designers and their work ethics when it comes to delivering a dress on time and exactly as it was ordered. Yes, I know that in the grand scheme if things it’s not the most important thing. And I may shallow in this regard, but so be it. Not a fan of this system. :no:
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Welll, I just answered the OP’s question as it seemed to be with respect to what Urdu speaking families do. As obviously, it would make do sense to bring the Jonah in case of valima as the bride would be going to the groom’s house anyway.min my case, I went with my in laws and picked the outfit physically for the nikah. I had already gone and pre picked it before and discussed the price with my husband to be and he was fine with it. For rukhsati, they did not want to spend at all on a rukhsati outfit, so I paid for it. No big deal. Did not like the valima outfit at all but I guess one has to pick one’s battles.
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I know its a matter of choosing battles. But it’s a given that when one side has more control or say with both outcomes, then it puts the bride in a tighter spot.
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I picked my own outfits. Hubby gave me the money for the valima outfit and i had freedom to chose what i want. Nikaah outfit i got. Baraat day my side.
Ive seen jorra rasams in pakistan alot. They take the brides clothes and shoes accesories etc few days before the wedding to the brides house. We are neither punjabi nor urdu speaking but its varied in our family. Recently nephew got married my Api got all the brides stuff from here in the uk and took it with her. My cousin got married and her wedding day outfit came from her inlaws and valima from her side. Just depends on families.
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well her baraat valima r same day she picked her outfit, bari outfits were picked out by her 2 but I just heard of this where the bhabhis,cousins or sisters take a outfit with accesories 4 the bride separate just like a bridal shower i quess.
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Yes, whether the in laws pick or she picks the outfit, the women of the family take the outfit to the bride to be.