So are you for it..or against it?
And what are your reasons.?
Do u think its fun to live in a joint family system with all the chachas and khalas and mamas and phuppas?
I think it’s a total disaster. I believe that each and every individual has some own flaws and qualities and they need to have their time to develop and grow individually. A joint family system screws this up so bad. Like for example if there is a weakness in your personality..your own parents can take that..but your realtives/In Laws wont:nono:..no matter how close they are to you. And eventually this is going to make your everyone against you as well.
The point is that..in a joint family system everybody gets to see your shyt. And that’s not fun.
Most people will say oh joint family system Is the best ..you have your family to take care of you..they are always on your side..and blah blah blah ~
But there is always a limit to every relationship..i wudnt like NOBODY interfering in my life..some times not even my parents?.
So would you like to share your life [and possibly room] with 20 other people?
i guess both has its flaws & benefits. Like the saying...u dont know the value of something unless u lose it.
So if u r living in a joint family...u wud always wanna move out & vice versa.
I guess...i wud wanna live with my in laws after marriage for few months or perhaps a year. Get to know them better. And then u move out so atleast ur mother in law doesnt complain dat she never got the shuk of having a bahu. :D
Is not fun....u think that there are ppl there to help u??? Ya right....until u get into a fight abt whose kid hit who....then u do ur own work. And another thing is that ppl who live in joint family system their kids turn out to be more chalak and thayz.....so it really up to the ppl.
Living in a joint-family system does involve quite a few potential issues. I think it's better to live close to each other, but not necessarily in the same house.
I've always admired the joint family system in Pak especially since I had my boys. Its very good for little ones to be around more family, its good for the parents too. From what I've seen in Pak, most joint families have houses that provide some privacy to each couple too - a bedroom with a living room and full bath. That makes it easier to have a little bit of privacy I would think.
In the west, houses arent set up for joint families so any semblance of privacy is lost. I dont think it would work out well here, even for those who are from Pak. Even so, it can get lonely and life is much more hectic, with 3 little ones and no one else at home, its a challenge for me to even take a shower!
I think the grass is always greener tho. I live in the west and admire my in-laws way of life in Pak. My in-laws admire our way.
^ N ot necessarily, I think alot of houses here (at least in NY) would offer more privacy, at least the 2-3-4 family houses… each floor has thier own entrance and lots of privacy..
There is no concept of privacy in Pak, everyone is in everyones business, and if u try to keep something private, like keep someone from opening ur cabinets they think ure hiding something bad :o
And the kids i’ve seen in pak…they are very spoiled and rude and have absolutely no manners and they are chalaak too. but then I think that has to do wiht the parents.. my in-laws kids are not rude or spoiled..they’re shararti but not bad
hahaha that is funny! I hate the drainage system in PK I swear…the gov’t is too busy making IMAX theaters yet they can’t fix their drainage…who in the world is going to go to that theater??? The nokars who can’t afford it??? And instead of fixing the countries environment and other problems they r too busy buying their kids and their kids friends mercedez…
Mamaof3: Not until u live there u won’t know what its like…and trust me its better that u don’t experience it unless ur inlaws are incredible and rich…and secondly you don’t have the privacy u think u may get…ur really lucky if u do.
In my family joint family is not a way to go. With all the related problems. Before I got married my mom told me to go get my own house first and then get married, her reason was very simple, every woman desires to make her own home her own little nest. My mom's house is the way she likes it to be, and she wanted my wife to have the same say in her own setup.
I feel bad for women who do strict hijab and have to live wiht his brothers and cousins and uncles around..i’d be pretty pissed abt having to cover every freakin minute of the day in my own home.
