Joint family or Nuclear family?

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Which one is better?Joint family system or Nuclear family system?And why?

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nuclear family system...cuz..i dun like any sort of interference in my life..joint family is fun..but roz ki chik chik i cant tolerate..i need my own space..

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It depends on the family. If the couple gets privacy and there's no interference in their matters, it's not a big deal to be in a joint family.

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start off with joint family for the wife to adjust to what her in-laws require from her and then move to a nuclear family when the couple need their space to raise children

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each has its pros and cons.

but in the long run, nuclear family, especially when babies come into the picture.. just too much interference in teh way you should raise ure child.. and then when tehy start to grow up and then comes the teenager phase, htat can cause major heart ache for both grandparents and the parents

i have a son and i wont have him living with us once he is married, every woman wants a placed of her own to do as she pleases, so its just better.

door raho, dil ke paas raho.. much better than qareeb magar dil se door.

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well-said :k:

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For me it would have to be nuclear family, I've grown up in a small family and with tons of privacy and my own space, also never had to to ask permission to go out etc. so I don't think I'd be able to handle living in the joint family setup.. the traditional desi 'hierarchy' of elders being at the top and DIL being expected not to answer back and so on doesn't appeal to me either.. I like the idea of everyone being equal and having equal rights regardless of age or whatever..

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I think its better to live alone first and then with inlaws for a little bit also.

By living alone in the beginning, a couple is able to fully understand, fight, make up, love each other with no outside interferance. Once they reach a point where there bond is strong, inlaws can come into the picture. But even then, only for a little bit. I dont think permanent joint family is a good idea, ever.

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See i used to think: live alone at first THEN live with in laws...but nah that would never owrk. When u live alone, u get so used to your routine and you set your own dynamics...bring in laws in and it distrupts the whole thing.

As opposed to livign with in laws first, then getting ur own place....makes more sense.

Idk.

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I think nuclear family. Maybe just because I watch too many indian soaps... ;)

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nuclear family ,cant imagine living in a joint family anymore.,

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Live with in laws for sometime and then separate ....

but in the end you cant set a rule for this depends on lot of things specially people of the family and your self

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i am living in a joint family system.. its good too but i like or i will prefer nuclear family... because you can live the way you want to...in joint family you have to be very carefull living with other people no matter they are good with you..

you know family and formalities..

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Each has it's pros and cosn. I've lived in both and liked both.

I guess I'll prefer to live in joint family to a point where everyone is happy with each other, if things start to get complicated I'll prefer to move out. There's no point in living together if you hate each others guts.. thora milo suthra milo.

Also it depends if all siblings are married and have families, this situation makes things even more complicated and unless everyone is accommodating and understanding issues might stir up every once in a while.

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I never minded before I got married, then I got married and since then we have lived separate...It makes an extremely healthy relationship with your in laws and you get the independence to what you want when you want.

If it came to the crunch and my husband needed to look after his parents I would insh'Allah definately welcome them into my home and do my best to adjust because I can't be selfish and think of me me me all the time and see them living all alone with noeone to take care of them.

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oyiiiii

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I think this is the ideal scenario. The couple need to get to know each other away from the pre-established family situations. If the girl moves in with her in-laws, she's the new element - the in-laws continue to do everything as they always did and any changes to the family dynmamic are attributed to her.

If the couple live alone, they establish their own household with their own routine.

After a few years when the couple move into their own home, then they should invite his parents to live with them because the parents when they're older do need the support and companionship of their children. Another big consideration which most guys don't clue into - if the DIL moves into her in-laws place, the MIL will already have her home running according to her routine and decorated to her taste - the DIL never gets to put her mark on the home.

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I like joint families as they can create a functional family, but the idea of a couple living alone (and even having kids) is more private . Each has its own pros and cons though, but I would go with both.

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nuclear ofcourse…i cant bear interference of anyone in my life…husband alone wud be tooooo much that baaki sab ko kon bear kere :bummer:

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Nuclear family is better coz in joint family there is too much of interference n no privacy n that roz ki kich kich pich pich is such a big headache.