thank God i am not a woman who has to make adjustments in someone else's house but i can relate somewhat to that situation because i live with my Bhai and Bhabhi and their grown up children whom i love immensely and they love me back even more! :) thanks to Allah. my Bro and my Bhabhi are like my parents. they have raised me in a way.
i help my Bhabhi in a lot of ways. since her daughters and son moved out to live on-campus, i take the garbage out, do the vacuuming, mow the lawn on a weekly basis and then help in the kitchen by loading and unloading dishes in N out of the dishwasher, set the table, clean the table, sometimes wash dishes and do the laundry, make salad, help in general cleanup.
i think what it takes to enjoy your stay in a joint family system is the willingness between the parties to share both chores, finances and love! :)
So! Who here lives in a joint family and what is your role in the house? What are your daily chores? Whats every one elses?
If you like to live like that, what is it the main cause for that? And if you hate it; why is that?
trying to figure out if I should say yes or no to this..
If you have a choice in the matter, I'd suggest you go with your own place. Of course that's just a rule of thumb. I don't know any specifics in your situation to say otherwise.
Please discuss this with your future husband if you are not comfortable with the setup!! I can tell you from personal experience that its not always fun.