Re: jethani devrani…
Truly speaking, my Jethani has been there in this house before one and half year than me and thankfully speaking, my MIL, SILs and FIL already knew the kind of woman she is.
Good part is, I never found my MIL, SIL especially back biting about her with me. That’s where I realized, it’s actually she who is creating troubles. When the troubles started between me and her, my SILs and MIL told me, they knew the kind of woman she is and that “it’s not new for us”, my SIL in fact said, we knew you are a grown up and we don’t need to tell you who’s right and who’s wrong…eventually tumne samajh hi jana tha, and in that case they were right. Sath reh reh ke I realized everything.
My In-laws are not saint and at times they have turned on cruel to me too, but something that I learnt was, jab jab I had issues with my in-laws, baat hoti, issue raise hota, thori mairee thori unki suni jaati…kuch ghanto main clear hoti hain waheen khatam hojati… dubara na niklti…
but with my Jethani, she loves creating fusses and she doesn’t forget bad incidences. In fact baat clear bhi hojati tab bhi wo dil main rakhti aur agli larai main doobara nikaalti… so thats where I differentiated between my in-laws and my Jethani. My fight with in-laws is kind of fight I could have with my own family… jisme tu tu main main hui aur kuch arsay main bhool bhula gaye… but my fight with Jethani… at this stage, never takes place…and its because… to me, she doesn’t even worth speaking to… !! Its kind of really neutral and liye diye wala relationship with her. Totally formal.