jethani devrani...

AishaAli · October 23, 2013, 5:53pm

Re: jethani devrani…

Initially my Jethani tried to control me. Not being rude but very politely, nicely, lending gifts and what not. My In-laws quite liked me and every time I used to sit with her, her pure intentions were to tell me what my nand or my mil or FIL say at my back about me.

Things that might have said in humor, were delivered to me as a sarcasm or taunt at me. As time passed by and being with her most of the times, I realized, it was she who was trying to idher ki udher kerna. She used to say positive gossips in a negative tone that led me towards lot of misconceptions. Times make you learn accordingly and so did I and my in-laws about me.

I am glad I realized the type of girl she is. Its not like I have bad relationship with her at the moment but now I am kind of neutral listening to her and don’t believe in what she delivers to me. I see, I observe myself and then do what I want to.

I think, when SHE realized that I was a good bahu in my in-laws view, that’s where she started spreading wrong things about me to them and about them to me… but alhamdulillah… she failed in it. Now at least I know how to handle her and not take her seriously.

Precisely, yes, it’s insecurity!!

wow I feel like you have the same situation as me…am glad we both know the reality of our jethanis now just pray the saas does too!!!