Jealousy or what?

Lifestyle Relationships
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Hey!
So there’s this guy I REALLLY like, and he knows I like him…we’re really close. When we were talking about this, he said I was very unique, and he probably won’t, ever find another girl like me… he clearly told me he doesn’t like me more than just a friend though. He’s not friend’s with a lot of girls… but he’s starting to interact with more of them, than usual… (we go to the same school) and I don’t like it. I’m not necessairly jealous of those girls, they are really slutty and dumb (they are desi though) and average looking. I just don’t like the fact he interacts with them :confused: It bothers me. I don’t know what to do. Is it normal for me to not like that?

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Re: Jealousy or what?

ibtedaiee ishq hai rota hai kia
aagay aagay daikhyee, hota hai kia

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Rejection is never pleasant....not for the person who is on the receiving end and also not for the person who is doing the rejecting. It's not easy to reject someone.....and people try to word things in a way that would soften the blow. IMO....he was trying to soften the blow by saying that you're unique and that he won't find a girl like you. This positive comment does not mean that he has a romantic interest in you. And it's really easy to over-analyze comments/actions when you have a crush on someone and make a bigger deal of them than they actually are. Kind of like misconstruing a greeting or a smile as interest, etc. If he REALLY TRULY thought he'd never find another girl like you and that you were the "one" for him...........he'd be with you. But that's not the case.......and therefore the contradiction implies that he was trying to be as gentle as possible with the rejection and he's not interested.

As far as you feeling jealous of him interacting with other girls..........yeah that's normal. You had/have a crush on him. You invested time and emotional energy in him and it bothers you that are not at the receiving end of his flattering attention. As far as what you should do...........I think you need to keep yourself busy in positive activities. You sound young....like you're either in high school or college......therefore concentrate on your studies.....on hobbies/interests/personal goals you have.....spending time with family and friends. Try not to dwell on him. You say that he's a close friend of yours.....but not all your time has to be spent with him or thinking about him. Spend it with other people, for example. I know this is not what you want to hear.....but at least you can use your time/energy for better things. The worst thing you can do is to analyze each and every one of his past positive comments/actions and try to find some sort of "hope" that he returns your feelings. It's tough and it may seem impossible right now........but time does decrease the intensity of the hurt. You will move on.

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oh honey he blew you off.
Wow he's smooth.

You're jealous

Yes you're jealous.
Yes its normal.

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Is this the same guy from here:

http://www.paklinks.com/gs/life-and-relationships/437738-should-i-say-sorry-first.html

Because you know CM is back now, I’ll get Jaanwar in, Redvelvet has already made her presence felt. And Shak, OMG, the Shakster, his brilliant responses which had your head in a tizzy, is now the mod here. I mean can you believe it? (rhetoric) Awesome, right!! And I can probably pull in a few more people if you want. So tell me. Is it him? Is it? Is it? Is it? Are we gettting the band back together? Oh please let it be so. crosses fingers and jumps up and down

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:omg:

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If you aren't in 10th grade yet you need to keep it all locked up and deal with school work. Your are 14 years old. At maximum 15. Concentrate on your studies and quit watching bollywood movies.

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I feel like I lost 10 IQ points for reading that thread :frowning:

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:rotfl: Protect yourself rizla the brain has no firewall.

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It is not love , it is infatuation at best. Move on and find another victim who shares your IQ.

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did he ever say he loves u? if yes then u've ALL the right to tell him that u do NOT approve he he interacts with other girls. i he did NOT, u've NO right on him as of yet i suppose.** if u've the guts, tell him how u feel about him. at the moment, it looks like ***he is just a friend. so, take a chill pill. agree?*

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hes a meanie.hurl a jooti at him.

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its jealousy.

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Yeh Jealousy....

Hey sister if I were you I would fillet him...

But best concentrate on your studies and look out for these lobsters next time... your bakra will be yours in good time. :)

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:shikra: