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*Originally posted by Rukhsarbibi: *
^ that's what I was wondering... in Pakistan - do the guys practice the proper Islamic way of giving the girl her Maher before marrying her? I don't think I've ever heard any of my cousins giving the girl her due before signing the nikah contract.
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Wattttttt... U suppose too..dang man...my dad alwayz say isss ghar mein jo cheez hai.. hum sub ki hai.. per den sometimes...he would ask mom to give him HER money.. and that he would return it soon.. aghhhhh...
Yes it is… but when i got gifts from my cousins in-law… it felt good.. I know its wrong.. but sometimes i think Dulhan walay tryin to allure dulha walay with gifts.. so unki beti ko araam ho..lol
my father has always been against jahez, so he never bothered with it either nor did anyone from my husband side demanded it. he preferred to spend that money on my tuition fees instead (so i dont have to pay student loan). my mom, however, bought jewelries for me. i did recieve the gifts from my husband's side though.
oh i did recieve the Quranic tafseer written by molana maududi and beheshti zewar the book from my mom side. :-)
Hmm, what I know is that jahez is not something important jis ke bagher shaadi nahi ho sakti. It's upto the parents if they want to give their daughter ghar ki kuch zaroori cheezain that she could make a good use of, then that's good enough. The other day, I was watching Alim Online on Geo TV and I heard both alims saying that jahez haq meher ki raqam se kharida jata hai. Now I don't know if I should believe them or not, because some of the alims on this show have already made a few mistakes. But khair, I know our people make a big issue out of this little thing that how can a girl be rukhsat from her house without jahez. There are a lot of people who can't afford a lot of things, woh becharay kya karain phir! So, I think larkay ki family shouldn't be that bhookay, which is the only way to get rid of this problem.