Jahez / dowry

[Kinzz]

Why in our culture so much value is giving to dowry, if one bahoo brings lots of jahez she will be treated like a princess but if other bahoo didn’t bring much jahez she will hear this for rest of her life,

Why can’t we accept a girl with her good manners, family values,Up bringing,Education and other qualities.

Oh and now a days generators*or UpS is must with jahez.

[muqawwee123]

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aurat hi aur ki dushman hai :(

[Kinzz]

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Mard jese chup chap rahey ga orat khali hath aae tou??

[muqawwee123]

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Mard jese chup chap rahey ga orat khali hath aae tou??

I think if women start talking against this on both sides, they can teach greedy men a lesson

[Asif971]

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Jahez dena ab ek aam baat hai
Jahez k bghair koi shaadi mukammal nahi hoti

Mujhe yeh samjh nahi aati k Dolhe k ghar mein pehle hi itna samaan hota hai

phir aur samaan ki zaroorat kiyon???

Aksar daikhne mein aaya hai k Ek kamre mein woh samaan jor diya jata hai
Jab koi milne aaye Use dikhaya jata hai

(Village mein kisi se milne jain to woh Ek special kamre mein bithate hain jahan jahez ka samaan para hota hai)

Mujhe lagta hai k log apni betiyon ki shaadi k liye lete hain aur yeh baat andar hi dab jati hai

Aap kiya kehte hain Chunri Babu???

[muqawwee123]

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Jahez dena ab ek aam baat hai Jahez k bghair koi shaadi mukammal nahi hoti

Mujhe yeh samjh nahi aati k Dolhe k ghar mein pehle hi itna samaan hota hai phir aur samaan ki zaroorat kiyon???

Aksar daikhne mein aaya hai k Ek kamre mein woh samaan jor diya jata hai Jab koi milne aaye Use dikhaya jata hai

(Village mein kisi se milne jain to woh Ek special kamre mein bithate hain jahan jahez ka samaan para hota hai)

Mujhe lagta hai k log apni betiyon ki shaadi k liye lete hain aur yeh baat andar hi dab jati hai

Aap kiya kehte hain Chunri Babu???

very rightly said. A well established family having all the furniture and accessories doesn't need things like fridge, furniture, etc given to their Bahoo in Jahez by her parents. But parents say 'nahin denge to beti ko taane milenge'. so much khokla pun in our society

[Asif971]

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@muqawwee123

very rightly said. A well established family having all the furniture and accessories doesn’t need things like fridge, furniture, etc given to their Bahoo in Jahez by her parents. But parents say ‘nahin denge to beti ko taane milenge’. so much khokla pun in our society

Well established k ilawa village people have all necessary household items but they also give dowry.

Aap logon k ne aksar suna hoga bare log mehfilon mein mustaches ko tau dete hue kehte hain"Hamare haan jahez lene ki koi rasm nahi"
aur inhi logon ki wajah se ghareeb logon ko bhi jahez dena parta hai.

[muqawwee123]

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@Asif971

Well established k ilawa village people have all necessary household items but they also give dowry.

Aap logon k ne aksar suna hoga bare log mehfilon mein mustaches ko tau dete hue kehte hain"Hamare haan jahez lene ki koi rasm nahi"
aur inhi logon ki wajah se ghareeb logon ko bhi jahez dena parta hai.

people do talk against Jahez, but when it comes to original situation.. They take Jahez munh khol ke.

Last week, I had hot discussions with my family on this issue. They said ‘Hum samajhte hain ye buri cheez hai, lekin aur log bhi to betiyon ko dete hain’. I said ’ They have ooper ki kami, they can do that and let them do that. I’m not going to follow them’ and again the reply was ‘zamane k sath chalna parta hai’.

[Asif971]

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@muqawwee123

people do talk against Jahez, but when it comes to original situation.. They take Jahez munh khol ke.

Last week, I had hot discussions with my family on this issue. They said ‘Hum samajhte hain ye buri cheez hai, lekin aur log bhi to betiyon ko dete hain’. I said ’ They have ooper ki kamai, they can do that and let them do that. I’m not going to follow them’ and again the reply was ‘zamane k sath chalna parta hai’.

moonh khol k =

Agar lena hi hota hai to bari bari batein karne ka kiya faida:hoonh:

Isi nahoosat ki wajah se kae larkiyan aise hi mar jaati hain aankhon mein khawab sajaye

Zamane k khilaf khara hona parta hai
**
Zamana Hum se hai

Zamane se Hum nahi**

Pehle bare logon k paas haweiliyan hoti thin paisa hota tha

Apna raub paida karne k liye Unhon ne jahez dena shuroo kiya
aur ghareeb log Aaj tak suffer kar rahe hain

Ab Jo golmaal karta hai wohi shaadi k baad sar utha k chalta hai

Jo mehnat ki kamai se jahez bhi de to bhi Us ki beti suffer karti hai

[muqawwee123]

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@Asif971

moonh khol k =

Agar lena hi hota hai to bari bari batein karne ka kiya faida:hoonh:

Isi nahoosat ki wajah se kae larkiyan aise hi mar jaati hain aankhon mein khawab sajaye

Zamane k khilaf khara hona parta hai
**
Zamana Hum se hai

Zamane se Hum nahi**

Pehle bare logon k paas haweiliyan hoti thin paisa hota tha

Apna raub paida karne k liye Unhon ne jahez dena shuroo kiya
aur ghareeb log Aaj tak suffer kar rahe hain

Ab Jo golmaal karta hai wohi shaadi k baad sar utha k chalta hai

Jo mehnat ki kamai se jahez bhi de to bhi Us ki beti suffer karti hai

True. These things make people do hera phera. Its a cycle, which never ends. In our neighbor, a person who is famous for his ooper ki kamai, gave 8 gold sets to his daughter alongwith other stuff. Now his son-in-law compelled his wife to bring money from her father every month and they do have tussles everyday. Haram ka maal kabhi kisi ko daimi khushi nahin deta.. jaise aata hai, waise jata hai

[Asif971]

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@muqawwee123

True. These things make people do hera phera. Its a cycle, which never ends. In our neighbor, a person who is famous for his ooper ki kamai, gave 8 gold sets to his daughter alongwith other stuff. Now his son-in-law compelled his wife to bring money from her father every month and they do have tussles everyday. Haram ka maal kabhi kisi ko daimi khushi nahin deta.. jaise aata hai, waise jata hai

Aur kuch???

[muqawwee123]

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@Asif971

Aur kuch???

aur kiya?

People say Jahez is a gift, but after the death of parents, brothers say to sister ‘tumhe Jahez main itna dia tha, ab tumhara wirasat main koi hissa nahi’

[Asif971]

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@muqawwee123

aur kiya?

People say Jahez is a gift, but after the death of parents, brothers say to sister ‘tumhe Jahez main itna dia tha, ab tumhara wirasat main koi hissa nahi’

Aap ka bhi yehi irada hai???

[muqawwee123]

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@Asif971

Aap ka bhi yehi irada hai???

kis baare main.. mere paas koi wiraasat hi nahin.

[Asif971]

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kis baare main.. mere paas koi wiraasat hi nahin.

Achaaa

Kis ne kaha???

[muqawwee123]

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Achaaa

Kis ne kaha???

kia kis ne kaha. What do you think about those who take money for marrying their girl to someone?

[Asif971]

Re: Jahez / dowry

kia kis ne kaha. What do you think about those who take money for marrying their girl to someone?

K Aap ki koi virasat nahi

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Jis baat ka Mujhe ilm nahi

Main Us mein logon ko mislead nahi karta

Sorry

Aap hi roshni daaliye

[muqawwee123]

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K Aap ki koi virasat nahi

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Jis baat ka Mujhe ilm nahi

Main Us mein logon ko mislead nahi karta

Sorry

Aap hi roshni daaliye

I mean one that I have to share with my siblings

[Asif971]

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I mean one that I have to share with my siblings

OK

Anything else???

[muqawwee123]

Re: Jahez / dowry

@Asif971

OK

Anything else???

There was this rasm (now not followed in many areas0, where Jahez given by a particular person was displayed and a woman used to tell by picking those things in her hands and telling the people who gave that..

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