Re: Jahez- Dowry
Okay all of you that have been married or about to get married....espacially those that are importing guys from paki....What is the go with giving dowry in paki espacially if you are not going to stay there. I know some families out of courtesy you give jewellery to MIL (to shut her up) or clothes but how far should you go. (as per social customs). I have asked this question to friends and family but they just tell big tales to make them and their parents look good but i figured here we could be more honest with one another (since it is virtual!!!). What did you guys give on your weddings to inlaws and mil etc....
I have been strictly against jahez and told my parents that I wont marry if the guy’s family insists on dowry. So when his family came over my dad told them directly that if they would ask for dowry at a later stage they should know that there would be none!
When we got married, my mother gave my MIL a gold bracelet. I was strictly against this as well in the beginning. But when the time was nearing I actually just thought that maybe it was better if it made my MIL happy. But I have realized that no matter what, things cannot buy you respect or happiness anywhere, especially not in your in-law family.
I am the only DIL but I never get any gifts from my parents in law. Neither at my birthday nor at any other occasion. I have seen people giving their only DILs stuff that I couldn’t even dream of from my parents in-laws. Not that I am greedy after things, but it kind of hurts to see this kanjusi from their side. Unbelievable!