Re: Jahez- Dowry
Great reply Dushwari..
Me and my partner both got married in London and not in Pakistan. My husbands side gave me 6 joras which included the walima and the wedding lengha. The other 3 had moderate kaam. They also gave me 3 gold sets which again, included the wedding and walima set. The 3rd set was a thin set or bendable as you could say. My parents bought presents for all his sisters and brother in laws and his nieces which included watches and amazing gold earrings. Its really sad for me to say it but they DID NOT even give any presents to my parents nor my younger sis and bro - which was upsetting and still upsets me as they are pretty well of mashallah! Our family just stays quiet about it and cannot be bothered to even talk about it as it was truely shocking at this!
Wonder if this happened to anyone else?
YES YES YES. o my god another girl out there ! im so happy (well pissed along w. u) that this is not just me. but i do think we are in the minority. we gave all his bro and sister and let me tell u there are lots of htem...stuff . meaning jewelery, watches, purses, clohtes, and a gold set to the mother. and i mean more than 1 of each. and in return my parents and bro/sis got 1 ugly suit each. thast it! no jewerly, purses, etc. nothing else! i think they thought we are from america we must be rich its our duty. while they "pretend" to be poor and they are really doing fine. im still pissed about it but yeah theres nothing we can do. even now on my husb bday we all give him presnets and when my bday came i ASKED for clothes from his mom on purpose...not cuz i wanted or needed them but just to see if shed send me something....she didnt. she said oh of course what u want for ur bday and conveniently she never sent anything and never mentioned it again. this yr im not allwoing any presents to my husband from any of my family members and im gonna see how he feels. and next time we go visit them we are not giving them a single thing. id liek to see how thy feel cuz im sure they will be pissed but oh well what goes around comes around.