Re: izzat
I have a cousin who's getting married in September. her name's Aysha and her fiance's parents hounded hers for a year for the rishta and her parents kept saying no until last year when they got engaged. Then another year was taken with the guy's parents making numerous trips to the girl's house to set the date with her parents making nakhrey and dragging their feet.
I was talking to my father a little while ago and he said that Aysha's situation is the ideal, with the guy's family going to the girl and larki ki izzat istra banti hai, with the guys family wanting the girl that bad to make a million trips and beg and plead for the girls hand. To him, this was the best way to go about things, even though Aysha for the longest time resisted the marriage and was so afraid and upset. i don't have a problem with how my marriage came about but i keep getting asked, why so quick? why done in such a weird way with hardly any family there? so what is your view, izzat kistra banti hai? (in the eyes of family, extended and immediate)
The second bit about Aysha's situation is exactly the same as mine....his parents keep on coming to my house to set the date for the wedding but my parents keep on making excuses that i'm studying, or buying a house or whatever...i feel sorry for them, they've been asking my parents for nearly two years.....i'm not proud of it...i don't like it and i don't think people should be treated like that!!!
