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[ShahreyarKhan]

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@coffeegirl

Feels like that as well.

No I am in second year uni and he owns three shops and manages them. Also has a car rental business. He is 28 ( is that too big a gap? )

second year means 19/20/21 y.o.? jesus christ. what are you studying at university?

as a rule of thumb if there is something you would want to hide from your parents is generally not the right thing to do to begin with.

I am not here to lecture you on what you should or should not do, but looks like you dont understand what ‘marriage’ means just yet. either you experiment this out and learn from it, or you wait till you grow mature enough and have the ability to have sensible decisions for yourself without any loss/damage. I hope you take this away with the message i am trying to deliver here.

who the heck know why he said i love you…

[Deeba1234]

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^If you take into account her family situation (ie with her dad) it’s not surprising she was hiding it.. Sometimes there’s a cultural or generational gap anyway and parents can’t always understand what’s in the best interest of their kids..

It’s not always as simple as saying ‘parents know best’ or ‘needing to hide something means you must not be doing the right thing’..

[ShahreyarKhan]

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it is not about should she tell her parents, it is about whether or not she should be doing it in the first place.

parents nothing knowing is irrelevant.

[Deeba1234]

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@ShahreyarKhan

as a rule of thumb** if there is something you would want to hide from your parents is generally not the right thing to do to begin with. **

If you think it’s irrelevant not sure why you wrote this..

Whether or not she’s doing the right thing is subjective.. I don’t think it’s a bad thing.. esp considering the alternative..

[ShahreyarKhan]

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@Deeba1234

If you think it’s irrelevant not sure why you wrote this..

Whether or not she’s doing the right thing is subjective.. I don’t think it’s a bad thing.. esp considering the alternative..

it is not subjective.

[Gina]

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@multani86

I’m actually on my mobile, stuck in traffic. Not driving of course, and upon reading your thread, I certainly laughed a little inside. I do appreciate your insight of the female mentality. This guy does seem like a gentleman.

That being said, I laughed (internally) when I got to the language tidbit. I’m a native English speaker, and even though I don’t fluently speak punjabi, I understand it… And it’s a very esthetically pleasing language. It doesn’t sound repulsive… But where I’m from in Pakistan they speak more multani/saraki… Again I have no problem comprehending these dialects, but my ability to speak is pretty subpar. It’s pretty hot to have your significant other say, “mah tenu kutasai” or whatever… But yeah. As some posters have said… I wouldn’t feel too weird about this… Personally my English is great with the standard Hollywood accent…but for some reason I prefer talking to my relatives and family in Urdu and my English becomes brown.., I think they enjoy the brownness… It’s easier for them to comprehend the brown accent. That being said, I hope you overcome this minor uncomfortable feeling

“mehn tuako kuttay saan”