My friend got engaged on 19th April, 2010 and today she and her fiance has broken up… the reason being her in laws were too much demanding..Although they are quite well off but still they were asking for car, house sort of things in dowry.… That’s so sad, people are so much greedy these days and are unaware of the true concept of marriage.. I mean c’mon, they are not selling their daughter..
This is just one example of what is happening in our society, what are the expectations of some people when they are bringing the Bahu..Huh..
When I was telling this to one of my colleagues, she said “ aaj kal tou mangniaan hoti hee tootnay k liay hai..”.. I thought that was a weird statement.. Is is that common now broken marriages/broken engagements?
well I am glad she came to know about their greedy intentions before she got married , many a times you don't know what such people are upto till you get married & start living with them. She is lucky that Allah saved her from future trouble & pain. Allah will send a decent spouse for her Insha Allah.
Isn’t this the whole purpose of this engagement thingy to check each other out and see if it will work or not ?? Same thing like a trial period . Like you get something from Walmart and return it if you don’t like . Sort of . Ok may be bad example , but this whole practice worked out for her . Bravo :k:
nothing to be sad about it is better that their intentions were revealed before shadi, inshallah your frind will end up with someone who will value her for who she is not for what she can bring.
Do ppl really ask for a car as dowry??? Better off away from those weirdos..
I think that happened to a cousin of mine in Pakistan....the guy's family asked for a car or scooter/motorcycle I think. She married someone else is very happy MA.
Neha, the problem here is the demanding of a dowry in the first place. Has no place in Islam.
This world is full of such weirdos and this is just one of those examples to prove this fact. Im happy the girl n her family found out abt their intentions beforehand AND didnt bow down to their demands to save the rishta. To heck with such people who r so damn greedy and they dnt at all deserve any respect from anyone at all.
I should have asked for some dowry, I got NOTHING, and it makes me MAD!
nah, I'm kidding, this dowry nonsense is yet another hindu traditions that our Pakistani brethren have adopted, it's so cheap.
Dowry is not a hindu tradition. Hazrat Fatima was given dowry by Prophet Mohammed. Dowry should stay as a gift from parents of the girl to the girl and never should be demanded by the family of the groom.
Dowry is not a hindu tradition. Hazrat Fatima was given dowry by Prophet Mohammed. Dowry should stay as a gift from parents of the girl to the girl and never should be demanded by the family of the groom.
Agree. I don't think there's anything wrong with parents wanting to give wedding gifts to their daughters to help them get settled. But there's a difference between a gift......and making a demand/imposing. The former is okay....the latter has no place in religion.
I remember writing a paper on dowry deaths...and reading in the research that it was a more a part of Hindu culture...and that some of the beliefs/superstitions were adapted by the Muslims. Not sure how true that is. But the idea behind it was that the groom's parents believed that the bride would be an extra mouth to feed....and therefore they had the right to demand a dowry since they were the ones who would be taking care of her expenses.
I think that happened to a cousin of mine in Pakistan....the guy's family asked for a car or scooter/motorcycle I think. She married someone else is very happy MA.
Neha, the problem here is the demanding of a dowry in the first place. Has no place in Islam.
That's so messed up.. ur cousin had a lucky escape..
Dowry is not a hindu tradition. Hazrat Fatima was given dowry by Prophet Mohammed. Dowry should stay as a gift from parents of the girl to the girl and never should be demanded by the family of the groom.
But that dowry was bought from the proceeds of the sale of Hazrat Ali's armour.
Its miss interpreted actually , Its just some stuff that a family ( parents ) can give to their Daughter and it should be what they can happily give and afford
