It's "your day"!

[somegroovychick]

Re: It’s “your day”!

@kakee

I don’t really know western, east/south asian weddings so my “demand” isn’t that big. I just know that I don’t want to wear red and I’m only going to have 2 or 3 functions

I know you weren’t “specifically” referring to me but it seemed like an attack.. I don’t want the moon or want a huge, heavy lengha etc. I just want to have a good experience and have fun with my husband and not be watched by so many people.. its embarrassing.

i’m sorry you felt that way; it wasn’t my intention at all

maybe its time to delve into the forum in more depth and ask away about any traditions/aspects of south asian weddings that haven’t been covered so you can become more familiar with them prior to the wedding and hopefully it alleviates sme of your stress about how everything will go down. since you are marrying in pakistan, there will be limited things you can have a say in, unfortunately, such as the guest list, sitting on a stage and “being watched” etc. BUT loads of brides opt to wear other colours besides red at their wedding and i don’t see a flower girl being an issue either or the non-desi food, so hopefully you do get your way there.

my point was that it really needs to be about balance between the bride/her family and the groom/his family. one side does not, and cannot, trump the other.