how do u tell urself its over? when is it over? what does somenoe have to do or say for u to be convinced that its no more? and i dont mean as in cheat on u or watever..
what would be the signs that tell you that u are no longer in a relationship with the person?
lets say u r not “man” enuff or “woman” enuff to admit that you are no longer interested, what are some ways of jesting “lets break up and move on with our lives”?
i know someone who is in a patchy relationship.. and i want to know what can convince him/her that he/she is no longer in a relationship.. and he/she really needs to move on… for me, the signs are pretty clear.. even if the significant other has not said it in so much words.. but the attitude is a clear indication…
why do we need to wait for those exact words “its over” to know that it really is? if the person aint responding to calls and emails.. how is one to know?
kheyr…ummm…i dun think ANY relationship is ever OVER.
Even if u dont talk or meet with that person…he/she is still a part of ur memory…ur duaz…ur khayalaat u know…
so i dont understand keh…ok…if u ONCE cared about a person..a LOT…then no matter wat he does ur says…u cant really STOP caring or loving all of a sudden…rite? its jus not possible…
rishtey to bus bantey hein…tootTe nahi…
lekin talking about US tarah ka “over” jiski aap baat kerri ho …
first thing u cud check…wud be “respect”…
if BOTH of u still hold a LOT of respect in ur heart for the other person…then i dun think its really OVER…
n mere khayal se time bhi hota hai…aik do baras guzarne ke baad…u cant really make ur relationships the same with the same person..u cant act or feel the same around that person…bus woh baat nai rehti..
or orrrr…
i guess aesi baatein apne dil se hi poochni chahiye bajaye kisi or keh…
meri kisi se larayee hogi mein auron se thori poochoon gi is it over?
mujhe khud pata hoga…us insaan ka…ya humaare rishtey ka…ya uski value ka…
to bus…aap ka apna dil hi bata sakta hai keh kya rishta badal raha hai ya abhi bhi wapis murne ka chance hai
ohh n i also wanna add…i was once in a similar situation as u sadzii…
i tried to convince my friend keh uska us insaan se ab koee rishta nahi…ya nahi hona chahiye…n she shud just forget about him n move on…cause he doesnt care for her…n woh hi uske liye zindagi barbaad kerri hai…etc…
but she wudnt give up…
like it was ALL over…n i cud see it…
they stopped talking…they sweared they’ll never talk to each other…n they were no longer on each otherz msn list…and koee raasta bhi nai bacha tha n i wanted to save her from the hurt…so i kept telling her keh or jagah dil lagao…ur relationship with him IS OVER…
and now…
now they r about to get married inshAllah this year…
infact, shez a guppan here. I wudnt like to name her tho
so next time if im in that kinda situation…i’ll jus tell my friends keh…“there r alwayz miracles where there is true love”
to yeh nai socho keh everythings over
par haan…ab aesa bhi nai keh kisi ke intezaar mein zindagi barbaad ker lein …
intezaar kerna chahiye…khamoosh ho ker…
baat cheeet chor ker sub khatam ker ker bhi thora intezaar kerna chaiye…
i dunno.. i did give up for bout a year.. i stopped questioning and just didnt want to know anymore, but seeing a friend in tears all the time.. i dunno its just difficult hmm
well i think you HAVE to hear the words 'its over' .... because like i said in one of my other posts, you still have that candle of hope lit in your heart until u hear those words. and you just dont wnat to give up n have to hear those words to convince your self. Thats how it would be with me....most people just take the hints and back off.
I guess its not easy to just walk away even thou its better than holding onto pieces of what once had been.. Holding onto them is better, easier than realizing its over and even thinking of moving on. Unless u hear the words, u hold on.. n keep on holding.
Well, given that this person is your friend, I would recommend you not even get yourself involved. Just listen if anything, and nod away at your friend as she complains or sings praises of this guy. If you influence her in anyway she might turn and blame you tomorrow. Besides, the girl needs to make her own decisions and accept the consequences. Its part of growing up. So let her do what she feels is best.
i know someone who is in a patchy relationship.. and i want to know what can convince him/her that he/she is no longer in a relationship.. and he/she really needs to move on… for me, the signs are pretty clear.. even if the significant other has not said it in so much words.. but the attitude is a clear indication…
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This is the same situation my mother was in. It was so hard for her to believe that a Pakistani man, who she gave everything up for, her religion, even her own identity had actually left her. She still suffers from severe depression, but she has come to believe it.
In that case - I think its just a gut feeling you get. You kind of feel things drifting apart. But then, in situations like that, you ought to ask yourself if you're doing enough to keep the excitement in the relationship going.
sorry to digress, but sadzz were u at the cricket match yesterday? they focused in on a pakistani girl that looked so much like you, and im like hey that looks just like sadzz!! :p (she and her male friend were waving wildly at the camera)
yeah... the but i was waving it around at the MCG.. i wonder who the girl was... i hardly ever get told i look like someone or someone looks like me hehe
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