i know this one couple who got married maybe a month back. This couple is not an “orthodox” Pakistani couple - whatever that means. Who is? The families of both parties lived far away; there had not been a proper family reunion in the sense that not everyone in the family had been in the one same city for a long, long time partially b/c everyone was wrapped up with careers, visa restrictions, work permits, etc.
Long story short: prior to the wedding, they sent out invitations by mail since most friends/family members live abroad. Some parties received the invitations earlier than others. Some recvd personal phone calls from the bride&groom, some did not. Some recvd e-mails as well, with detailed information regarding the hotels/addresses/pickup times/itineraries from the airport etc etc. Some did not receive those personal e-mails. At the shaadi itself, some felt they were not given enough attention from the bride and groom.
WWIII has erupted amongst all the parties. Why? Because some family members/friends felt as though they had been ‘snubbed’ because they got their mail invitations later than the others. Some felt snubbed b/c the bride&groom did not take the time to write out “Assalaamu Alaikum Dear [xx]. Aap log zaroor a rahain hain, na? We are all missing you desperately. Shaadi nahin ho sakti aap logon kai baghaair. Lots and Lots of Love and Kisses”.
It had become a competition to see which lucky individuals had got the most personalized attention from the bride&groom. If you got your invitation first in the mail, then that was a trump card you used to flaunt it in the faces of the others. Everything became so petty and trivialized. Family arguments from one century ago, about whose grand-grand-grand-parents had done what to whom, flared. Best of all, the couple was talked about behind their backs by the community, laughed at for their unorthodox ways, but infront of them - it was all lovey-dovey.
It’s as though the community was getting married, not the bride&groom. Everyone made the wedding their wedding. Exactly kiss ki shaadi ho rahi thi? There was no concept of just being happy because two people had decided to share their lives with each other. Yeah right. It was more like bicker, squabble and fight over stupid little details. Now different parties are not talking to each other because of their stupid jealousies…i.e., the bride&groom talked to [xx] more at the wedding than me, so i am not talking to anyone.
i mean, is this for real ??? Albert Einstein once stated, “Two things are infinite: the universe and human stupidity; and I’m not sure about the universe.” i mean, people, jab kissi ki shaadi hoti hai, there’s a concept of just being happy for the bride and groom. Just be happy and bloody well put your differences/insecurities behind your back. Just be happy for those two. But noooo - all the family fights/quarrels from a century ago had to resurge and spoil the mood. Why do human beings, who have placed themselves at the apex of the pyramid of all living creatures, behave in this extremely pathetic manner?
People can be so freaking petty-minded and shallow. And then we wonder at the moral decadence in the ‘west’. Yeah look in the mirror. When two people get married, just be happy for their sake and leave your crybaby-tantrums for another time.
i lub da beddings