Re: Its haram!!
Ok seriously uhmmm let me go thru this point by point. A lot of these things are nto as simple as they sound, there’s a lot more to it. From what I’ve learned, there’s a reason everything that’s forbidden or haram is haram; it’s for our own good.
-its haram to fall in love
**Becuase emotions ruin you. You’re “blinded” by love, and you can’t rationalize properly. Dating, love shove stuff before marriage is wrong and it is haram. Most of hte time ther eis a lot of sneaking around and lying involved (hiding a relationship from parents), a lot of hurt and uncertainty and pain; there is absolutely nothing good about dating before marriage.You can’t get around that and say that it’s right because you do this or that; that’s rationalizing bad behavior to make it sound right and that si wrong. **
-its haram for girl to raise her voice in front of her hubby
** A wife is supposed to obey her husband and he is supposed tot ake care of her, take her feelings into consideration before making every decision; he is the king, she is the Queen 
If he is asking her to do somethign unIslamic, she has every right to disobey him. **
-its haram to speak in front of parents
** We are not to backbite, compalin or speak ill of our parents; there is no rule that says we must not talk in front of them. However, there are some things you wouldn’t talk about with your parents that you would talk about with your friends; there’s a pardah between fathers and daughters, less so with mothers and sons, though i’m not sure if this is Islamic as well or just cultural **
-its haram for a girl to speak up for her rights
** Uhm… NO! **
-its haram to go against your elders wishes
** Your parents do everything for you. Many sacrifice a lot in order for us to be happy and well adjusted, especialy mothers. Parents only wnat the best for their children, very few are really greedy and unscrupulous to sell their own children to the best rishta or something. That being said, we must honor them and not disobey them or speak ill and complain about them. **
-sitting next to a man is haram
** Well if you ever take hte NYC subway you should know 
Guys will take up all that space and rub their legs up and down against yours, freakin pricks :yukh: **
-watching TV is haram
** Well what consists of our pop culture now, Pakistani or American, is haram. Until this craze of viewing luxury celebrity lifestyles, watching people hook up nad have meaningless sex and then wonder why they aren’t falling in love.. **
-its haram telling a girl you like her
-its haram to propose
-its haram for if a guy ask girls parents directly
** Most of your complaints seem to be about culturerather than religion. Our culture isn’t exactly the most Islamic. Please don’t think that Islam is all about “this is haram this is ahalal, we are all going to hell,” because that is a very defeatist attitude. Its a horrible feeling, being in such despair that we are definitely going to hell because every little thing we do is haram. So cheer up and realize that this is mostly cultural BS and can be overcome **
