Sometimes I feel our system is unfair for women. The pains men go through are no where even 50% close to those that women go through. Say for example, period pains, child birth & its associated problems, 9 month pregnancy, women who are raped (God Forbid), women who go through domestic violence, during sex mainly the woman has pain while the man is having the time of his life-the first time & some times later too, women who have controlling husbands who don’t allow them to go out of their house or work or meet their own family or anything etc.
Such issues we hardly see men going through:
Period pains don’t exist for them, they have no idea how 9 month pregnancy can be difficult, what the world’s biggest pain of childbirth is, what it is to undergo domestic violence. We would hardly ever ever have heard that a guy was raped by a woman? or lets say a wife abusively hit her husband every day ? or that a wife has stopped her husband from stepping out of the house?
Religiously, we may have been given rights but the execution of those hardly happens any where. Our religion although has unequal rights in same cases but has solid reasons behind them e.g. right to inheritance is different because a wife will get some via her husband as well. But culturally, its a total mess up!
Do you agree so? Why were women created such weak entities?
Women were not created weak entities, but strong ones specially because they go through what you wrote and still would do anything to take care of their children even if the fathers abandon them. Infants of most species are very weak and most of them would die if mothers were not created with such strong emotions and will to protect and rear their families.
Men are weak in the sense that they might not be able to go through the pains of motherhood.
Say for example, period pains, child birth & its associated problems, 9 month pregnancy
I'll take all of that because the pleasure and rewards of being a mother is some thing which the men can't ever surpass.
and for the rest of the issues like domestic violence and all that, these are common for both men and women, it's just that men generally don't have a whining nature so these issues don't come out much
The problem is everything you are saying cannot be changed. It's the natural order of things! We could argue about women's rights, which has been done here a million times. We are all sort of taking a break from it. :D
you don't know what men go thru...there is so much pressure on them to make a living and provide for them...because, men are Islamically responsible for it.
Both men and women go through difficulties. One difficulty may be different to another, but has very similar pain. Men generally don't complain, but that doesn't mean they aren't going through any hardships.
I've wondered about the same things from time to time, Abra....so you're not the only one to think this way. And while there is reward for one of the situations that you've mentioned (childbirth).....I wonder why did Allah have to design things in a way that they should be physically painful for women. What was the reasoning behind it?
I agree with the redvelvet and the initial comment - it's hard being a women. Sometimes I think how life would be if I was a boy.
But I do enjoy being a women and thankful for what God gave me
I just pray that women have decent loving sahreeh (parents, husbands, brothers and sisters), may each of them be educated and be able to stand on their own two feet.
Abra i think the same way as u do...
but women are not weak creatures..they r really strong emotionally n physically...but yes we have more quest to complete.
well why is it that when a guy is being scared or acting "soft" we call him the slang term for female genitalia? (Which btw...can bleed every month and pass a child through it) whereas being tough and brave is "having balls"?
