ive noticed that very very few ppl r nice, kind, generous, thoughtful enough to the extent where they dont steer a conversation to be about THEMSELVES
someone will share their problems with u, and u start talking abt URSELF, or similar experiences U have had, and not necessarily to make the other person feel better but just to boast or enjoy the attention/lime light
hmmm
theres very few ppl who will have the generosity and patience to talk to you about YOU and try to probe into your feelings and your situations… without bringing themselves into the pic and taking the opportunity to bask in the limelight…
thats kinda heartless…and kinda using…dont u guys think thats morally wrong… hmmm…most ppl seem to be narcissist and crave attention
I know!. Just the other day I opened up a thread about myown problems and some people steered the conv towards their issues. Let me tell u, it is not very nice. I rarely talk about myself. :halo:
bari hansi aa rai hae :p saath mein kuch bol bhee do kaki is thread kee zeenat barh jayay gi
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When u ask poeple smoething, they can only respond from apersonal point of view,and for u to understand they need to inform u of the context otehrwise it may seen odd to say the least.
Its an inevitability whenever u ask anyone for advice.
And you do find modest poeple, ur justlooking under all the wrong rocks
When u ask poeple smoething, they can only respond from apersonal point of view,and for u to understand they need to inform u of the context otehrwise it may seen odd to say the least.
Its an inevitability whenever u ask anyone for advice.
And you do find modest poeple, ur justlooking under all the wrong rocks
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hmm hiccy u r right
lekin some ppl share their experiences to comfort others with no intention to indulge themselves
while some ppl share their experiences not to comfort but to enjoy and hog the limelight
Professional shrinks charge hundreds of dollars (per hour) to listen to other people and focus on their problems. Yahan mufta hai, therefore bardasht karo that people will want to talk about themselves as much as they want to talk about you.
Ammi used to always say that Allah meant for us to hear/listen more and speak less. That's why He made us with two ears and only one mouth.
She also said that the tongue is guarded by 32 teeth so that it doesn't move so much. :)
But someone mentioned this earlier in the thread that the average person finds it difficult to relate to what they are hearing unless and until they translate it into some experience that they may have lived through themselves. Perhaps this is why the word "I" appears so much.
sometimes i think people dont intend to steer the conversation towards themselves or like the limelight… some people use their own experiences and examples to relate to a situation or explain how things can be dealt with
cus often people will think “what would he/she know” but when u give them somethign u’ve been thru urself… u have that common ground then :k:
but true, u shouldnt always bring ur own personal stuff into it… i know im at fault too about 80% of the time hehe
funguy i dint mean to say k i dont do that…ive noticed it in my own self too..
its really rare to find true modesty these days
kidhar ja rai ho i wasnt talkin bout u paaglo 